"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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quick question about kino

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im still new at this and im getting comfortable making approaches now, but what im really lacking is kino. i dont know when to start it or how.:confused:

if anyone could give me some examples or experiences id appreciate that. im still new here, so even a point in the right direction to a thread would be nice :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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rushing dude 123

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well heres ones i like, just say if u c a girl who dosn't look exactlly tonk, but is lifting weights anyway. just say "o i don't c girls usually lift up weights" feel her arm and smile and say "r u trying to build ur biceps". Kino is anythink though just touch her arm gently, move her hair out of her eyes and put it behind her ear. I am no master at this, just knows it shows results, if u need more advice jus look in don juan bible link is at bottom page it has a section on kino alone i think.
 
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The first "Kino" move a boy makes is in grade school when he pulls a girls hair - for some reason this doesn't work when you become a man - I don't know why.
 

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While your telling her something interesting, put your hand on her thigh for a second. Or tell her something funny and put your hand on her arm. Ideally she should initiate kino, as this is womens nature when they are attracted to you
 

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just simple as that? im sure if we are standing touching her thigh would be odd, but i get the mindset. thanks!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I would stay above the waist if you are just meeting. Let her go below the waist if she wants, not you! A quick touch on the back of the arm, nothing more than 1 second.

If she doesn't reciprocate then discontinue.
 

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I think a good way to start is:
- when you are telling her something, grab the arm between the elbow and shoulder.
- maybe youll like to try her back (a bit lower than the shoulder) or the upper part of the hips? (haha sorry im not too good with english)

I think the key here is:
1. At first it may be ackward but: Youll only achieve confortableness by practicing.
2. When practicing just touch where you wanna feel. (haha not there dude!) but you could check her hips or neck if youd like to.

If youre in for the girl: apply gradually more Kino, dont be afraid to touch a bit more. Is ok if she stops you. Belive, me: ITS BETTER THAN NOT TRYING AT ALL.

Good Luck!
 

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Dongfu said:
While your telling her something interesting, put your hand on her thigh for a second. Or tell her something funny and put your hand on her arm. Ideally she should initiate kino, as this is womens nature when they are attracted to you
No way? Usually kino hots up after *I* make first move? I kept kinoing some girl, and after some time she did start to do it back. I am yet to experience a girl initiating kino, in FACT, they usually apologise if they brush right up against me in some shape or form.

Plus it's pretty damn awkward in office/classroom settings, prepare for ULTIMATE c*ckblocking from ALL, even guys who want a piece of her too!

Eg:

*hand on her neck*
*she likes it*
C*ckblocker: *Clever remark* (couldn't come up with any good examples)
*awkwardness*

If you have tight game you can usually defuse it but I am not that good yet.
 

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Usually, I'll tap a girl against the shoulder with the back of my hand as I'm changing subjects as if I just remembered to tell her something.

Ex.

"..........oh hey! Did you hear about blah, blah, blah?" *tap, tap*


Then I'll pat her on the knee as I'm winding it down.

"That's pretty much how it happens." *pat, pat*


Then I'll get up and leave to go get another drink or something and rub my hand across her back as I'm leaving.

"I'm gonna go get another beer." *get up* "I'll be right back." *rub hand across back as I'm leaving* *walk away without looking back*
 

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go google the Dicarlo Escalation Ladder

it'll keep you from misapplying kino and wonderinging wtf happened
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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