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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Quick question about gift cards

Hellomisslady

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Hey guys, just a quick question. What's the ruling on taking a girl to a place and paying (partially or fully) with a gift card? Does that seem tacky or cheap?

Thanks
 

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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i always thought so and i'm pretty sure gold diggers wouldn't like it but you're not looking for GD's so i would have to say it depends on the person.

My one of my best friends really doesn't have much money. He's in med school and only one of his parents works. He always spends his money carefully. He's also one of those guys that wants to try everything and have fun. The girls he gets generally don't mind that he doesn't have much money because he carries himself well. I don't know if he ever used gift cards but i think he has used coupons which is similar.
 

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Not to be rude at all, but this made me lol :D !

Common dude, why are you even wondering what she thinks?

Gift card is only a cool way to pay IMO.. Tell a story behind it, from who you got it or something. Gives a bit extra to talk about.
 

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Well it's from my sisters for my birthday haha so not much of a cool story but its fine we decided to get smores and watch a movie at her place. Thanks guys
 

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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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AAAgent said:
i always thought so and i'm pretty sure gold diggers wouldn't like it but you're not looking for GD's so i would have to say it depends on the person.

My one of my best friends really doesn't have much money. He's in med school and only one of his parents works. He always spends his money carefully. He's also one of those guys that wants to try everything and have fun. The girls he gets generally don't mind that he doesn't have much money because he carries himself well. I don't know if he ever used gift cards but i think he has used coupons which is similar.
The Med school thing helps...
 

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Gift cards are money. The amount you are spending from the gift card is money/value you could be spending on yourself, somebody else, and/or something else, so YOU should view it as spending money and treat it as such.

If you wouldn't normally spend money on broads, then you shouldn't think of gift cards differently. Not only should she not dislike it, but should consider herself lucky that you are spending on her, period.

Now, if what type of currency and how much you are spending on a broad matters to either of you, it means you are using money, gifts, etc. to impress them and as a crutch. If your game is tight, if your value is high, as in the guy in med school, she won't mind. On the other hand, that same girl will judge, put up resistance, and look down upon the guy if he's a chump who she has no interest in.

In summary, two things. You should treat it as cash, and spend it on things/people you are willing to spend cash on, and the women you use them with should be women who are appreciative, specially since it is costing them ZERO, and you are giving up something else you would use it for. If she cares, she is really not into you, but into what she thinks you can provide financially.

If you have to ask, or in doubt, regarding gift cards/paying, then you shouldn't be spending on her, gift cards or not.
 

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Next time, pull out food stamps and pretend your trying to pay your meal with them. lol :p
 

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Hellomisslady said:
Well it's from my sisters for my birthday haha so not much of a cool story but its fine we decided to get smores and watch a movie at her place. Thanks guys
There is much opportunity in this.

Women are all about family and relationships. Using that card would be an excellent reason to talk up your sister and your family, to relate funny and even loving stories about you and you sister if you have any such stories.

This would be a huge DHV, because family issues always pique a woman's interest in a big way. When you display that you are good with kids and good with family, her heart will go pitter-patter. It is hard-wired into her and it works every time.
 
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