"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Quick Question about a Girl's Interest level

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So this girl I've known for years, but never have been friends with, I've realized has started to take a liking to me. During a game of "The Awkward Question" game my friends and I play often, she revealed that if she could kiss anyone in our group, it would be me and that if she had to marry anyone, it would be me. Her being attractive, I also answered her for the questions when they came around to me.

Now, a few days later we started talking (she initiated the conversation on facebook) and we talked for about 4 hours and during the conversation I asked her out and she said yes, but we had to wait until the weather was nicer and she was free. (that date is coming up at the end of the week) Now we only see each other twice a week so over the next week we talked primarily on facebook and I would initiate the conversation most of the time, and I would try to stray away from AFC habits like talking about myself of chitchatting about the day. But I felt AFCish being the one initiating all the time, as she would never do it first despite being online for hours. (Yes, I realize how AFCish this sounds, im working on it) During our conversations Ive shown interest by calling her babe twice and also subtlety calling her cute and doing lame lines about protecting her and holding her. She's also been into the idea of me holding her hand But as always, I strayed away from sounding too AFC. She still texts me occasionally, but I've tried to cut it down because I don't want to become LJBF'd or a texting buddy.

But now whenever I see her in person, she doesn't even acknowledge me unless I talk to her first, and when I go up and talk to her she seems much more interested in what other people have to say and wont look at me for longer than 5 seconds. Now I hate trying to decipher if a girl is interested or not, but I'd rather know than sit here like a dope, as I don't really care either way. But she seems much more interested during our conversations online or in texts. Maybe she's shy?

So what do you say, is she into me or not?
Also am I being too AFC? I feel like I am with all this stupid worrying.
 

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Rhino

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she's probably just shy.

but seriously, she said she wanted to kiss you. take her on that date, game up, and do it. then you'll see for sure.
 

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You need to isolate. You need to say something like "Hey wanna go sit on a bench?" and then just do your thing. And dont worry about being afc, just let it all come out natural. If you worry you will get nervous and nervous = not natural or confident.
 

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Im not really a fan of giving up just because you just got into the friendzone. Atleast give it a shot you know.

Ask her out
Hold her hand
Go for a kiss
ETC

Just make sure you dont spend more than a week on this.
 

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Yeah I don't know what else you need, I mean she did say she wants to kiss you right? Now go for it bro. You also seem to be too attached to the idea of being percieved as a AFC.
If you wanna hold her hand, hold her got damn hand! Do what feels right to you and not what is alpha or AFC.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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