"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Quick Question about a Girl's Interest level

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So this girl I've known for years, but never have been friends with, I've realized has started to take a liking to me. During a game of "The Awkward Question" game my friends and I play often, she revealed that if she could kiss anyone in our group, it would be me and that if she had to marry anyone, it would be me. Her being attractive, I also answered her for the questions when they came around to me.

Now, a few days later we started talking (she initiated the conversation on facebook) and we talked for about 4 hours and during the conversation I asked her out and she said yes, but we had to wait until the weather was nicer and she was free. (that date is coming up at the end of the week) Now we only see each other twice a week so over the next week we talked primarily on facebook and I would initiate the conversation most of the time, and I would try to stray away from AFC habits like talking about myself of chitchatting about the day. But I felt AFCish being the one initiating all the time, as she would never do it first despite being online for hours. (Yes, I realize how AFCish this sounds, im working on it) During our conversations Ive shown interest by calling her babe twice and also subtlety calling her cute and doing lame lines about protecting her and holding her. She's also been into the idea of me holding her hand But as always, I strayed away from sounding too AFC. She still texts me occasionally, but I've tried to cut it down because I don't want to become LJBF'd or a texting buddy.

But now whenever I see her in person, she doesn't even acknowledge me unless I talk to her first, and when I go up and talk to her she seems much more interested in what other people have to say and wont look at me for longer than 5 seconds. Now I hate trying to decipher if a girl is interested or not, but I'd rather know than sit here like a dope, as I don't really care either way. But she seems much more interested during our conversations online or in texts. Maybe she's shy?

So what do you say, is she into me or not?
Also am I being too AFC? I feel like I am with all this stupid worrying.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Rhino

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she's probably just shy.

but seriously, she said she wanted to kiss you. take her on that date, game up, and do it. then you'll see for sure.
 

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You need to isolate. You need to say something like "Hey wanna go sit on a bench?" and then just do your thing. And dont worry about being afc, just let it all come out natural. If you worry you will get nervous and nervous = not natural or confident.
 

NorwegianDJ

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Im not really a fan of giving up just because you just got into the friendzone. Atleast give it a shot you know.

Ask her out
Hold her hand
Go for a kiss
ETC

Just make sure you dont spend more than a week on this.
 

Nino-Tk

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Yeah I don't know what else you need, I mean she did say she wants to kiss you right? Now go for it bro. You also seem to be too attached to the idea of being percieved as a AFC.
If you wanna hold her hand, hold her got damn hand! Do what feels right to you and not what is alpha or AFC.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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