"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Quick, because I got a date in about half an hour

The Nice Guy is Gone

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Well, first things first, this girl is the one that came on really strong, and we watched a movie one night at my apartment. Tonight, we're just going to go to a coffee house or a college fountain, and play checkers and talk. With no money, that's about all I can come up with in this town. After I get paid, it will be a different story. Anyways, I'm just trying to get to know this girl now, and she knows enough about me to know that I have interest in her, but also that I do stay busy, which is no lie. I have been with friends beside her, and have been doing something almost every night with or without her, and she knows this too. This one, I don't have to worry about.

Now here's a situation where I'm not real sure what to think. I have this neighbor, who is also a friend. She is a little hottie, but I have not had any interest in her since I initially met her. But here's the deal--we talk every once in a while--neither one of us is hardly ever home. The other night, she was telling me how she had a crush on a guy, and that he was sooo cute. That was really all she said about that, except that she had had a crush on him for a while.

Okay, a night or two after that, I was at the bar--she came in with her friends. I looked to see who it was, and she made eye contact with me. I didn't bother to go over there because I was talking with the hbbartender (who I'm not trying to get with, but it's awesome social prrof); so, hbneighbor comes over to me, gives me a hug, and asks me how my night is going. Is this chic just being a friend, or does she have an interest in me? I know I should already know this, but this one is kind of hard to tell. Any help?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Iamnotacrook

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Quick?

Man up.

Seriously, it's not about whether she likes you, it's about whether you like her. If you do, go for it. Grow some balls or something. If she rejects you, I don't care, and neither does anyone else. What you do is for you. If you're desperate you're a fag. Haha, fag!

Sorry, I'm stoned as hell...
 
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