"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Quick, because I got a date in about half an hour

The Nice Guy is Gone

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Well, first things first, this girl is the one that came on really strong, and we watched a movie one night at my apartment. Tonight, we're just going to go to a coffee house or a college fountain, and play checkers and talk. With no money, that's about all I can come up with in this town. After I get paid, it will be a different story. Anyways, I'm just trying to get to know this girl now, and she knows enough about me to know that I have interest in her, but also that I do stay busy, which is no lie. I have been with friends beside her, and have been doing something almost every night with or without her, and she knows this too. This one, I don't have to worry about.

Now here's a situation where I'm not real sure what to think. I have this neighbor, who is also a friend. She is a little hottie, but I have not had any interest in her since I initially met her. But here's the deal--we talk every once in a while--neither one of us is hardly ever home. The other night, she was telling me how she had a crush on a guy, and that he was sooo cute. That was really all she said about that, except that she had had a crush on him for a while.

Okay, a night or two after that, I was at the bar--she came in with her friends. I looked to see who it was, and she made eye contact with me. I didn't bother to go over there because I was talking with the hbbartender (who I'm not trying to get with, but it's awesome social prrof); so, hbneighbor comes over to me, gives me a hug, and asks me how my night is going. Is this chic just being a friend, or does she have an interest in me? I know I should already know this, but this one is kind of hard to tell. Any help?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Iamnotacrook

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Quick?

Man up.

Seriously, it's not about whether she likes you, it's about whether you like her. If you do, go for it. Grow some balls or something. If she rejects you, I don't care, and neither does anyone else. What you do is for you. If you're desperate you're a fag. Haha, fag!

Sorry, I'm stoned as hell...
 
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