"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Drones200

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I'm interested in this girl *21* a year older then me. I think shes great, easy to talk to, extremely geeky which appeals to the geeky side of me, which I never show off to most girls and I truly feel like I can geek out like if I were in middle school all over again and not turn her off.

Anyway I actually spent time with her alone with her over her house just "hanging out". Now for the life of me I have no Idea why I haven't made a move, I keep thinking not yet, is not the right time. Wanted to shoot myself when I left her house last week at 4am without making a move *kissing her etc.* But one of the real reasons I didn't make a move was because my ex had contacted me the night before with hopes of getting back together. She was on my mind that whole night and I couldn't really concentrate.

However I come to my senses and really want nothing to do with my ex.

The thing is she never sends me text, I always have to text her, I have to call her, I have to do everything. It turns me off that the girl is not trying to also get me. I often feel well this girl is not interested she doesn't call or sees what I'm up to w.e.

I have two **** buddies in the side but I'm sick of the single life, I actually just want to get back into a meaningful relationship and I don't know why *besides the geek part* I find myself so attracted to her. Is it because she doesn't show interest?

We are going to the movies this weekend. First time we actually go anywhere just the 2 of us, so I just need some advice as to how to approach this. We haven't spoken at all since we set it up *yesterday*. I didn't beg for this date or anything, I just asked if she would like to go see a movie sat night and she said yes of course.
I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't contact me till then.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She's cool as a cucumber and I like it! Much prefer that to girls who chase nag on your case all the time (which they all eventually turns to in the end so you might just treasure the 'quiet time' now) but each to their own ehh.

If I were you I'll make a move Saturday night. Then NC! I bet she'll be all over you then
 

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Sounds like this geeky b1tch has you wrapped around her finger. Never texts you??? sounds typical if you ask me. I bet you've moved into "just a friend" territory.

Now, on the topic of these f'uck buddies, how hot are they? 6?7? or an 8 perhaps? I need more info to assess your situation. If your f'uck buddies are an 8 that means you're probably Orlando Bloom Hot, which means you still have a chance. But if they are only 5s then lets face it, you're not hot.
 

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Still_Skippin said:
Sounds like this geeky b1tch has you wrapped around her finger. Never texts you??? sounds typical if you ask me. I bet you've moved into "just a friend" territory.

Now, on the topic of these f'uck buddies, how hot are they? 6?7? or an 8 perhaps? I need more info to assess your situation. If your f'uck buddies are an 8 that means you're probably Orlando Bloom Hot, which means you still have a chance. But if they are only 5s then lets face it, you're not hot.
Too harsh, she has agreed to go out with him, so there's interest there. But like you said if the fvuk buddies are HB8 or above then just replicate the game he used on them to geeky gal. Then he should be able to regain control.

If they are under HB8 then he will need to play a new game.

By the way if I were you, and if you are planning to make a move Saturday night, then I'd probably try to avoid the cinema, unless you have some pre or post cinema game plan, preferably pre, as post cinema might not be shoe in.

In any case I think you should make a move soon.
 
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Too harsh, she has agreed to go out with him, so there's interest there. But like you said if the fvuk buddies are HB8 or above then just replicate the game he used on them to geeky gal. Then he should be able to regain control.

If they are under HB8 then he will need to play a new game.

^^^^^ THIS. just listen to this bro. he knwos u gotta be hot to pull this.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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