"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LAL2416

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This is my first post.

Basically I started hooking up with this on a regular basis. Every night I stayed at her place. Things were going great for a month or two; she told me that she likes me a lot/is falling for me but at the same time, she said she doesn't want a boyfriend. She's told me everything about her from favorite food to deep secrets.

After that great month or two she tells me she wants to stop what we were doing. The next few times we hung out she starts hugging me, leaning on me and grabs me. She tells me to stop chasing her and says you don't know me at all. She proceeds to hook up with another dude. She moved on from him and is hooking up with other dudes.

Every time I see her now she smiles but then looks sad at the same time.

What did I do wrong?
Is she just seeking attention?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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sph21

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You posted on the wrong section. You should have posted on the Don Juan Discussion section.

Here's what you did wrong:
1. You were too available for her (not being a challange for her).
Every night I stayed at her place.
2. You were indirectly telling her that you just want to be a friend since you never escalate your relationship.
she told me that she likes me a lot/is falling for me but at the same time, she said she doesn't want a boyfriend. She's told me everything about her from favorite food to deep secrets.
3. You made her bored by doing nice things to her.
After that great month or two she tells me she wants to stop what we were doing.
4. Did you ever say something that make her feel pity for you?
Every time I see her now she smiles but then looks sad at the same time.
If you did, then that's the reason why she looks sad.

If a girl tells you that she doen't want a boyfriend, this only mean that she doesn't want you to be her boyfriend.

She tells me to stop chasing her and says you don't know me at all
Girls usually say indirectly of what's on their minds. But if a girl tells you something like the above, she does mean it. She had to do that since you still don't get it what she told you indirectly earlier.
 
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