"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Questions to keep the set going !

ashman1

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Sup, fellow DJs .

Heres my question :

I usually get those awkward silent moments in sets with women .
and i heard that asking un-ordinary questions to keep them talking
is one key way to get to the close .

So what are some great un-ordinary questions i could ask ? any ideas ?
also what are some other ways to keep the woman from getting board with me ? - Ashman1 :nervous:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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darkjedi

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I used to feel the same way about awkward silence when having a convo with a set, but I learned that silent moments are not as bad as you think as long as you are looking calm, cool, confident while flowing the convo naturally. In fact, the set prob won't even be thinking about it as they can tell by looking at you that you are not worried about it.

If I want to keep a woman talking to me without getting bored, I will get her to talk about herself. You would be surprised at how much a woman will tell you about herself and what she has going on, ect. What makes this so good is that she will definitely not get bored with you and she will feel that much closer to you cause she is telling you so much. Another point is that you also want to exit the set on a high note, so leave once the convo is getting good.
 

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An unordinary question you can ask:
So what did you want to be when you were 7 yrs old?
If you could have a superpower what would it be?
If you could be any animal what would you be?

When things start to get boring just ask about her interests. Then find some interest you have in common and use that as an excuse to contact her again.
Then go for the #

Dont linger with any set. I've seen people lingering for 15 minutes or more talking about boring stuff. If you're lasting that long with a set you better make sure everybopdy is having a blast and they're begging you to stay. Otherwise, 10 mins or so should be enough to get the # and split.
 
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