"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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questions i have. so many of them!

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i wrote my story briefly earlier. But i couldnt go into full details as there is a lot to say. So i will ask the questions

1) Can a girl ever be too busy too pick up a phone call or skype within a 2 month period?

2) If a girl says they really like you and are flying down to see you, then why dont they like you enough to pick up the phone of skype, cos surely you would prefer that than to watsapp or fb chat all the time?

3)Is it normal for a girl to fly down to see you with her friend rather than not come on her own? And also fly down to a different city that you are currently living in?

4)Why would a girl definitely say that she prefers skyping and talking on the phone and seeing someone in person rather than talking on fb chat then two months later never does- cos she is busy moving house and it is the end of the financial year so she is really busy.

i have so many more questions because i am confused and a neewbie. Also is it better to get a girls opinion on this stuff?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lamobatsman said:
i wrote my story briefly earlier. But i couldnt go into full details as there is a lot to say. So i will ask the questions

1) Can a girl ever be too busy too pick up a phone call or skype within a 2 month period?

hell no

2) If a girl says they really like you and are flying down to see you, then why dont they like you enough to pick up the phone of skype, cos surely you would prefer that than to watsapp or fb chat all the time?

3)Is it normal for a girl to fly down to see you with her friend rather than not come on her own? And also fly down to a different city that you are currently living in?

depends on how well you know her and if you are intimate or not

4)Why would a girl definitely say that she prefers skyping and talking on the phone and seeing someone in person rather than talking on fb chat then two months later never does- cos she is busy moving house and it is the end of the financial year so she is really busy.
obvious long distance relationship and now she is flaking because she met someone else...life sucks sometimes i know but find someone else near you
 

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is that the same chick???? you should never speak to anymore...no interest level at all...kissing another guy in front of you...ignoring you....WTH would you still deal with her????
 

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yes its the same chick zinc 4. Wat i am trying to understand is the two months leading up to our meet where and what went rong in our interaction. I want to know if there were red flags that she threw that i cud have seen and walked away ages agoo?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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yes its the same chick zinc 4. Wat i am trying to understand is the two months leading up to our meet where and what went rong in our interaction. I want to know if there were red flags that she threw that i cud have seen and walked away ages agoo?
 

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also do girls prefer talking on skype and phone calls rather than on watsapp? i asusme if a girl likes you theyd rather prefer skype and talk on teh fone?
 
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