"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Questions about girls

AlphaNoob

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Hey first I'd like to thank all the poster here on this site for contributing, it has really changed my life and made me into a whole new person.
However, I still have some lingering questions...
First off, I'm a high school senior and I think I have mastered the whole thing about attraction. Not sure how I would rate myself but I'd say very above average in looks. And this site has taught me how to recognize if a girl might like you- I see that in a lot of girls that i encounter at school.

Today, I asked a girl out to a dance and it went something along...
AlphaNoob: Hey excuse me your name is HB9 right? Would you mind if have a few words with you? So I've been noticing you and i find you very attractive. Do you-
HB9: Wait are you asking me out to the dance?
AlphaNoob: Yes, would you go with me?
HB9: Sorry i already have a date.
HB9: Sorry sorry sorry....
AlphaNoob: It's ok

Before this, I didn't know the girl at all and she had a smile on her face afterwards(prolly bc i just stroked her ego?)

So how do i tell if she interested with that smile? Is it a "lol this idiot just asked me out" or "dam he's so cute" kind of smile

Also whenever i ask a girl out i enter the flight or fight response thing were i can't really focus and i dont really feel conscious of my actions. All i know is that i just do what i intended to do and i am not able to be cunning to think of a response. Why does that happen?

Last question now that i have almost every girl noticing me, where do i go from here?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Skyline

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She could have been flattered. If she was smiling and making eye contact before then she might have genuine interest. Your approach was good but it sounded a bit interviewy.

Because you have approach anxiety. Keep approaching!

Well you approach them and say hey whats your name etc.
 

VladPatton

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I commend you on approaching and asking her to the dance! Leave it alone now! If you don't keep begging and pursuing you will demonstrate you have options, are busy, and you don't care that she turned you down. She may also yap away to her other friends on how cool and ballsy you were to ask, get refused, and be cool and walk away. It'll be great for your social proof. It'll get easier, no one is gonna kill you, and you just ask another girl. Simple.

Good luck.
 
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