"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Questions about girl I met online.

thewarrior

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I met her for drinks, things went well enough because she stayed for two hours and she called me like an hour after the date. But I'm not that good with girls, in fact, I have zero real world experience.

1. She gave me her home number even though she has a cell phone. She lives at home and her mom answers the phone. Do you think she'll give me her cell at some point, or should I ask for it some way?

2. I know if I was a total ****-up that she wouldn't have called me after the first date, but I know I could have done so much better. If we meet again, I definitely have to kino and preferably as soon as I see her. And I have to be funnier. But am I right she has some interest?

3. Are girls alright with a guy being nervous the first date (especially since I met her online) or am I already in the friend territory?

She's a college grad, working as a dentist and will be taking license test shortly. A year older than me. She claims to have been in only one LTR and that was with her child's father (she got pregnant young). The one thing I am good at is judging people's character (even though women can be tricky), and I see her as a woman with a good head on her shoulders that's not impressed by PUAs. Oh, and she contacted me on this dating site and suggested we meet. It wasn't the other way around.

Since I'm inexperienced, how do the more experienced members read this situation? I called her last night to see how she was feeling because she wasn't feeling well on our date, but her mother answered and told me she was sleep. I did call pretty late for a working professional with a son, but I was hoping to catch her before she went to bed. I spoke in a confident tone and stated my reason for calling. I assume it's important for a mother to like a guy that's seeing her daughter, especially since this mother and daughter have a close relationship. If she doesn't return my call today, then I will call again tomorrow night (earlier) and invite her to dinner this week.

(What if she doesn't return my call today?)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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COD

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U Are Doing Fine

YA WHEN A CHIC CALLS U back........its a huge indicator of interest (IOI).

Date 2 objective is to escalate to the next level..........USING KINO.

ONLINE DATES are a lil different than infield extractions. Making the transtion from virtual to reality begins with the Instant messager, then the phone, and lastly the first date.

U did fine, date two is where U SMOOTHLY AND NATURALLY (not forced) progress. Turn it up a notch brother.......agenda is to get to the next level.

U should do some proactive thinking.....why did U email/contact this online girl in the first place. Do u want a booty call, Friends with benefits, long term, etc. That should motivate and direct your next move.

Always remember to "spin a few more plates" to avoid 1-itis.

Good luck.
 

thewarrior

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I've been reading the bible for a while now but never practiced it. I don't wanna develop oneitis so I'll keep options open now.
 

trv26

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Few things,
1. Dunno if in general girls mind nervous guys etc.. but she seems to be interested enough so ur good on that.
2. She didn't have her head on her shoulders enough to not get pregnant young.
3. All women are attracted to mostly the same stuff. So no need to stop acting like a PUA. Just don't tell her you're into this stuff.
 

slaog

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Instead of worrying about her liking you. You should be seeing if she's good enough for you!


Shes the one with the child so that basically will turn alot of men off her and make her less of a catch. Keep that in mind incase you start to feel you're not good enough for her.


Be the prize!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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