What do I do if my ex gf makes attempts to contact me while I still hurt from the breakup? I want to talk to her but can anything good come of talking back? I guess Im just afraid that if I continue ignoring her (which I have been doing) she will eventually give up trying to contact me.....
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I've been there.. Need more info on the breakup but I would say Ignore her.. Cut it off.
Back in HS girl broke up with me.. I was hurt, I let her back, she started to hurt me more so I broke it off before it got TOO bad.
Back in HS girl broke up with me.. I was hurt, I let her back, she started to hurt me more so I broke it off before it got TOO bad.
She broke up with me. Chased her around like an AFC fpr two months, got to a breaking point when she wanted someone else, have ignored her ever since. She has texted my phone 3 times asking how ive been and stuff. Ill be honest, i want her back but im really trying to suppress my afc tendencies and become a better man.
zerocelcius
Master Don Juan
Don't deny yourself what you want. Take control of the situation. If you want to talk to her you contact her on your terms and keep it very simple. Let her know whats up where you stand what you will talerate and you stay in control. If she starts up with some bull**** hang up and never call her back. Don't fall for this AFC ****. A chump fallows rules make your own rules do what you want. Just stay in control and use the phone first. k?
PCZ
PCZ
Ive been close to contacting her a few times but have talked myself out of it cause I figured if she really wanted me back or something shed call me or even text message that to me. Maybe she wants contact from me to relieve guilt? Are these fears unfounded?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
zerocelcius
Master Don Juan
The fact is women will hold out forever!!! She wants you to come to her. But that will never happen will it? It shouldn't, why should you? There are billions of girls in the world. I hope you have moved on.
Pcz
Pcz
Here is my breakup rule.
Breakup Rule:
1. If the girl is the dumper (you the dumpee) she must make an effort on wanting to come back to you (Like setting up a date and paying for everything, I don't care - I'll even purposely forget to bring more than a couple dollars)
2. She and Me must talk deeply on what went wrong and how we would resolve it. If she starts talking negatively at how I was acting and acting angry at me - Screw it.. I'm not going to deal with a stubborn biatch.
3. She must have open body posture and act positively around me. I don't even try hard if she's crossing her arms and her eyes are wondering.
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If another breakup happens. That's it. It's over. forget it, CUT HER OFF IGNORE.
Breakup Rule:
1. If the girl is the dumper (you the dumpee) she must make an effort on wanting to come back to you (Like setting up a date and paying for everything, I don't care - I'll even purposely forget to bring more than a couple dollars)
2. She and Me must talk deeply on what went wrong and how we would resolve it. If she starts talking negatively at how I was acting and acting angry at me - Screw it.. I'm not going to deal with a stubborn biatch.
3. She must have open body posture and act positively around me. I don't even try hard if she's crossing her arms and her eyes are wondering.
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If another breakup happens. That's it. It's over. forget it, CUT HER OFF IGNORE.