Question to the masses...

[The TallOne]

I have read/heard about when girls ask you for something/to do something.. that you should say no in most cases, as you are the one in control of the relationship.

Now, what do you make of a girl that does not ask you for anything? Doesn't ask for you to do anything for her.. to buy, etc.

However, she offers to pay for stuff for the both of you, such as snacks at the mall?

I have run into this chick, and she has never asked me for one thing. Alot of other girls in the past, would ask and even expect me to pay for items (such as food/movie tickets) yet this girl does none of that.

She hasn't flaked, nor has she ever cancelled anything. The majority of the time, when I mention for us to do something.. she'll accept. (Unless she has somethin to do with school/work, which is understandable)

Have you guys ever run into this kind of chick before? How did it work out?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Those type of girls/women are a rare find, at least early on in a relationship. Enjoy the ride.

However, you may want to delve a bit deeper into her actions if buying you things is all that she does for you. Is she emotionally there for you or is buying things her only way to keep you interested?

Just something to consider.

 

[The TallOne]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Those type of girls/women are a rare find, at least early on in a relationship. Enjoy the ride.

However, you may want to delve a bit deeper into her actions if buying you things is all that she does for you. Is she emotionally there for you or is buying things her only way to keep you interested?

Just something to consider.

She offers to help me with my German (she's pretty fluent) and she has helped out a few times with hobbies that I do... Which is most that I have seen from any girl that I have been with.

I rarely do things that require money anyway, its whenever it comes up, she's always willin to pay her half, or both.

Of course, I don't let her most of the time.. but I do allow her every once in awhile...

 

[milkman]

Originally posted by The TallOne
I have read/heard about when girls ask you for something/to do something.. that you should say no in most cases, as you are the one in control of the relationship.

My opinion: If you also want to do something, say YES, if not, say NO. Of course, sometimes, you can also do her a favour, after all is she the one who irons your shirts What you are referring to, is that you should not try to impress her and that you should live YOUR life and not the life of a man that you imagine she would prefer the most (apart from you know that girls are into men who have an own opinion).

"Control in relationship" means at all that you should do, what everyone should do: Care about your life, guarantee that it is interesting and make it an exciting one. Also care about the people you live with. Don´t be passiv and wait that other people (including her) do or decide something for you. Act by yourself, if YOU ask her if she want to join you to a game of your favourite football team, she is the one who has to say no. That is better instead of waiting until she is so hungry that she asks you if she should cook something and you say "No, I cook"...

Live your life and have some fun and don´t make someone to do something with your gun.

Originally posted by The TallOne
Now, what do you make of a girl that does not ask you for anything? Doesn't ask for you to do anything for her.. to buy, etc.

However, she offers to pay for stuff for the both of you, such as snacks at the mall?

Hmm, let me think, if I would meet such a girl, I would maybe marry her within 5 Minutes.

Originally posted by The TallOne

I have run into this chick, and she has never asked me for one thing. Alot of other girls in the past, would ask and even expect me to pay for items (such as food/movie tickets) yet this girl does none of that.

She hasn't flaked, nor has she ever cancelled anything. The majority of the time, when I mention for us to do something.. she'll accept. (Unless she has somethin to do with school/work, which is understandable)

Have you guys ever run into this kind of chick before? How did it work out?

She is a good girl, don´t break her heart. If you ask me, nothing is wrong with her. Everyone is different and she seems to be a much better choice than the opposite of her.

>> But what I read within the lines of your question: She is not really a big challenge for you. It´s too easy for you. You think: Hmm, something is wrong, what is going on here? HUMAN BEINGS WANT A CHALLENGE. It must not always be a big one, but unconscious we think: what is free is wrong.

>>>So, what can we all learn from this case: Never become a man with whom a woman feels like being in paradise... Oh, it´s so great with him... there must be something wrong...

Only if there are some moments of hassle, we will really appreciate the moments of happiness. Otherwise, life will become boring and that´s why people suggest sometimes saying "No" when the little hottie wants her third bottle of Dom Perignon at the same evening. It´s not because of the money, but who wants to bang a totally drunken supermodel??

 

[milkman]

Originally posted by The TallOne
She offers to help me with my German (she's pretty fluent) ...Of course, I don't let her most of the time.. but I do allow her every once in awhile...

Es scheint mir, dass du eigentlich gerne bezahlst. In dem Fall kann ich dir auch mit deinem Deutsch helfen, ich kann das auch ganz gut.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by The TallOne
She offers to help me with my German (she's pretty fluent) and she has helped out a few times with hobbies that I do... Which is most that I have seen from any girl that I have been with.

I rarely do things that require money anyway, its whenever it comes up, she's always willin to pay her half, or both.

Of course, I don't let her most of the time.. but I do allow her every once in awhile...

Sounds as if you've come across a good girl. She enjoys you and your interests/hobbies. She's also giving. I can't tell you to keep her around forever, but while you are with her, appreciate her. Don't forget to reciprocate her thoughtfulness once in a while if you want to keep her around.

 

[The TallOne]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Don't forget to reciprocate her thoughtfulness once in a while if you want to keep her around.

Alright, dumb question.

How would I reciprocate her thoughtfullness? Compliments? Back rubs?