Question on Plate Theory

[xuzaki]

In Rollo Tomassi's "The Rational Male", he describes plate theory where you are with multiple women. Women's mating strategy is hypergamy, not polygamy like a guy. From my experience and as Rollo advises, I don't directly communicate that I'm seeing other girls, but every girl seems to understand the situation and is okay with it.

My question is, if she ever directly asks, should I be okay with her being non-exclusive? Or is the idea of plate-theory / hypergamy for me to maintain her exclusivity as the highest-value male she can attract, with a "take it or leave it" attitude? If so, how to communicate this effectively in 'woman language'?

 

[Glassguy]

Either blow the question off or say "I wouldnt mind a relationship eventually with the right person, but I am not in a hurry to rush into anything".

 

[xuzaki]

I think my wording wasn't clear - let me retry: should my message be "sure it's fine if you're with other guys", or is the idea for her to only be with me?

Obviously this is for more serious plates that you go out with regularly and not just hookups.

 

[darksprezzatura]

You can say whatever you want to say as long as it's coming from a particular mindset, which women easily sense I've noticed.

Follow fundamentals:
Humans always go after high value scarce people who retreat after some interest and interaction.

Usually when she says something like where's this going etc, I say absurd stuff like yeah let's go married right now with a smirk.

 

[Murk]

If you're spinning plates you have to assume she is doing the same. What you are talking about is locking down multiple girls being exclusive with you only, while you plough through them all. I don't think that's the idea, but then again I haven't read up on the theory.

 

[Mr Wright]

In my experience it goes like this, you are consistently seeing 3-4 girls but the personnel changes fairly regularly because some girls can't put up with that arrangement in the longer term especially if they really like you. They dip out to protect their emotions, then you find another girl...rinse and repeat.

I say nothing explicit to the girls but they can work it out if you're only usually available one night a week and are vague about your movements. Women are very perceptive about this kind of thing and usually they don't care about sharing the kind of guy that they want. They understand that they can't be pushy at the start which buys you 3-6 months depending on the girl. Let her make all the moves to move the relationship forward and act as you see fit. If you're doing it right she'll be sleeping with just you before she asks anything of you.

I have never had a woman ask me if she can sleep with other guys or bring that kind of thing up explicitly because it's crass. Women are more subtle than that. But when that conversation comes up about me, I have been rather honest and I haven't had a girl end things outright at that moment.

 

[darksprezzatura]

In my experience it goes like this, you are consistently seeing 3-4 girls but the personnel changes fairly regularly because some girls can't put up with that arrangement in the longer term especially if they really like you. They dip out to protect their emotions, then you find another girl...rinse and repeat.

I say nothing explicit to the girls but they can work it out if you're only usually available one night a week and are vague about your movements. Women are very perceptive about this kind of thing and usually they don't care about sharing the kind of guy that they want. They understand that they can't be pushy at the start which buys you 3-6 months depending on the girl. Let her make all the moves to move the relationship forward and act as you see fit. If you're doing it right she'll be sleeping with just you before she asks anything of you.

I have never had a woman ask me if she can sleep with other guys or bring that kind of thing up explicitly because it's crass. Women are more subtle than that. But when that conversation comes up about me, I have been rather honest and I haven't had a girl end things outright at that moment.

Reread this

 

[HankHill]

In my experience it goes like this, you are consistently seeing 3-4 girls but the personnel changes fairly regularly because some girls can't put up with that arrangement in the longer term especially if they really like you. They dip out to protect their emotions, then you find another girl...rinse and repeat.

I say nothing explicit to the girls but they can work it out if you're only usually available one night a week and are vague about your movements. Women are very perceptive about this kind of thing and usually they don't care about sharing the kind of guy that they want. They understand that they can't be pushy at the start which buys you 3-6 months depending on the girl. Let her make all the moves to move the relationship forward and act as you see fit. If you're doing it right she'll be sleeping with just you before she asks anything of you.

I have never had a woman ask me if she can sleep with other guys or bring that kind of thing up explicitly because it's crass. Women are more subtle than that. But when that conversation comes up about me, I have been rather honest and I haven't had a girl end things outright at that moment.

Or...if you're like me you'll run into the kind that won't sleep with you until they're sure you're not sleeping around...

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

In Rollo Tomassi's "The Rational Male", he describes plate theory where you are with multiple women. Women's mating strategy is hypergamy, not polygamy like a guy. From my experience and as Rollo advises, I don't directly communicate that I'm seeing other girls, but every girl seems to understand the situation and is okay with it.

My question is, if she ever directly asks, should I be okay with her being non-exclusive? Or is the idea of plate-theory / hypergamy for me to maintain her exclusivity as the highest-value male she can attract, with a "take it or leave it" attitude? If so, how to communicate this effectively in 'woman language'?

School boy error.

Mystery, ambiguity, vague, covert, indirect etc are keys to game.

You don't tell her your a virgin, you've never seen a vagina before, you have no options.

You create drama by letting her investigate for herself. Its the same for kill count. I am aloof. Million dollar mouth piece. Gift for gab. Its when it comes to her interviewing me, I give nothing.

Communication is for cucks.

Not in the mood, low sex drive, LMR = #next


These sorts of games don't occur when you have options, you are scarce, not at her beck and call. The smell of vagina gets women wet. Your having options gets her moist.


Women are more competitive then men give credit. Act accordingly.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Or...if you're like me you'll run into the kind that won't sleep with you until they're sure you're not sleeping around...

I got lmr from a young Sloot once. I just picked up my phone and made like some other skank needed a ride home from the bar.

Options, the fear of loss is so money. Women wet when...!