Question on girl's interest level

[Eroe]

so i met this chick via the internet. she messaged me first, mentioned that i was cute and we exchanged some flirty messages. so a week goes by and we decide to meet up.

we had great conversation, had some dinner and hung out with a couple of my friends. there was slight body language interest on her part. she would walk really close to me, and would joke around and say "oh i'm tired" and put her head on my shoulder.

anyway, even after that we talked when i got home, she wanted to make sure i got home ok. but after all of this, we could never contact each other. she calls me, i cant pickup. i call her, she doesn't pickup, etc. but she says that she never answers her phone.

so we had another lunch "date" today and she was really cool, called me "honey" when we said bye and told me to call her tonight [she wants to hang out on friday].

but here's the catch, she mentioned indirectly that she wants to be able to do what she wants, which i took as a sign that she's not looking for a boyfriend.

anyhow, should i pursue her as a potential mate? what would you guys say about her IL?

 

[SealTeamSix]

she's a hustler .. u been hustled .. find other ones.

 

[DJ_Dork]

She definetely is not a potential by how she acts towards you. Interest level? She's interested collecting you as her friend that obeys what she wants.

A girl that is interested in you, will let you lead and say yes to most of your date inquiries.

Who is leading? Seems like she is.

 

[Omega]

Originally posted by SealTeamSix
she's a hustler .. u been hustled .. find other ones.

Rofl.

Bump but well put!

 

[b's nuts]

might as well try fvcking her, no point in going for a relationship with this girl though.

 

[xblitz44x]

It's hard to make a prediction based on what you've said. It's really not enough information. Everything seems, well, fine so far. She's not ready for a relationship, so what? Her not crawling up your ass is a good thing. Maybe.....just maybe she's telling the truth.

I think you're overanalyzing. Just go in there and have some fun. She hasn't cancelled a date, hasn't blew you off, so set up another date. If it feels right, kiss her. If she's into you, she'll let you. If she's not she'll stop you and you'll know for sure. But for the time being just relax and let things unfold instead of getting all bent ouf of shape because they aren't matching your expectations to a "T".

Blitz

 

[bootlegger]

if she is looking for love on the internet...

She needs a real man, to bang her.


She's not looking for a BF on the net.


Next date, stop at a gas station, when she asks why, tell her you need to buy some rubbers.... if she is still in the car when you get back..... You're in.

 

[mahon83050]

Originally posted by Eroe
so i met this chick via the internet. she messaged me first, mentioned that i was cute and we exchanged some flirty messages. so a week goes by and we decide to meet up.

we had great conversation, had some dinner and hung out with a couple of my friends. there was slight body language interest on her part. she would walk really close to me, and would joke around and say "oh i'm tired" and put her head on my shoulder.

anyway, even after that we talked when i got home, she wanted to make sure i got home ok. but after all of this, we could never contact each other. she calls me, i cant pickup. i call her, she doesn't pickup, etc. but she says that she never answers her phone.

so we had another lunch "date" today and she was really cool, called me "honey" when we said bye and told me to call her tonight [she wants to hang out on friday].

but here's the catch, she mentioned indirectly that she wants to be able to do what she wants, which i took as a sign that she's not looking for a boyfriend.

anyhow, should i pursue her as a potential mate? what would you guys say about her IL?

Just an FYI, the last online chicK i went out with, stated that she was not sure if she wanted a boyfriend. Naturally, I have not heard from her since.....I got blown off.

 

[Eroe]

yep, that's what i figured. probably better if i don't waste my time. i've got another girl on deck, but i'm not AS interested in her. we'll see what happens, xblitz seems to have put it best.

but er, thanks for the input folks.

 

[Krassus]

Are you serious? Can you really not tell that this girl wants the two of you to be fvckbuddies? Read what you wrote, it's all in there! The signs stand out as i read it. Here, i've identified them for you. And that's from a few PARAGRAPHS OF TEXT... you've SPENT HOURS with this girl! Why haven't you fvcked her yet?

Originally posted by Eroe
so i met this chick via the internet. she messaged me first, mentioned that i was cute and we exchanged some flirty messages. so a week goes by and we decide to meet up.

we had great conversation, had some dinner and hung out with a couple of my friends. there was slight body language interest on her part. she would walk really close to me, and would joke around and say "oh i'm tired" and put her head on my shoulder.

anyway, even after that we talked when i got home, she wanted to make sure i got home ok. but after all of this, we could never contact each other. she calls me, i cant pickup. i call her, she doesn't pickup, etc. but she says that she never answers her phone.

so we had another lunch "date" today and she was really cool, called me "honey" when we said bye and told me to call her tonight [she wants to hang out on friday].

but here's the catch, she mentioned indirectly that she wants to be able to do what she wants, which i took as a sign that she's not looking for a boyfriend.

 

[Eroe]

that's what i thought too for a second. but she totally flaked on me this past friday. she had told me to call her after i was done running my errands. i called her and she didnt pick up. so i left her a text msg telling her to call me when she's done with whatever she's doing. she replied with "ok." never heard from her that night.

she then sent me mail, this is copy+pasted:

" Ok I know your really mad at me... I'm sorry... I'm sooo sorry... I dont want to give you some bull**** excuse why I flaked so bascially I just am... a flake... Call me if ya want I'm so ****ing sorry... again and again and again "

and i replied with:

"nah, you can call me. "

personally, i don't wanna deal with her. she tells me to call her. i ask, "will you pick up?" and she always says "yes." yet, she never picks up the phone. i don't bother leaving voice messages. but yeah, i've got other investments that would pay off better anyway whatever, her loss.

 

[dereklearnslow]

Originally posted by Eroe

and i replied with:

"nah, you can call me. "

Nice.

 

[chicksrock]

Damn another attention seeking WH**RE!!!

 

[Krassus]

Originally posted by Eroe
that's what i thought too for a second. but she totally flaked on me this past friday. she had told me to call her after i was done running my errands. i called her and she didnt pick up. so i left her a text msg telling her to call me when she's done with whatever she's doing. she replied with "ok." never heard from her that night.

she then sent me mail, this is copy+pasted:

" Ok I know your really mad at me... I'm sorry... I'm sooo sorry... I dont want to give you some bull**** excuse why I flaked so bascially I just am... a flake... Call me if ya want I'm so ****ing sorry... again and again and again "

and i replied with:

"nah, you can call me. "

personally, i don't wanna deal with her. she tells me to call her. i ask, "will you pick up?" and she always says "yes." yet, she never picks up the phone. i don't bother leaving voice messages. but yeah, i've got other investments that would pay off better anyway whatever, her loss.

Sounds like she's a hoe. She probably ended up ****ing some other random guy that night.

 

[blue17]

if she calls....tell her to come over to watch a movie or something and fvck her brains out.

 

[Eroe]

Originally posted by Krassus
Sounds like she's a hoe. She probably ended up ****ing some other random guy that night.

my thoughts exactly.

 

[Eroe]

here's an update. i didn't call her or send her any more messages. so she signs on today and i didn't even notice. i got an instant message from her as she started small talk with me. eh, i wasn't feelin it but whatever, i went on anyway. got nothin else to do around this time.

anyway, halfway through the conversation i asked about what happened, here's the convo:

me: yeah i know
me: so what happened?
me: on friday
her: I picked up my friend from the airport then went to my house
her: My girl came by
her: Smoked......
her: Then we went to some house party...
her: Do u hate me
her: ?
me: nah. you coulda told me you couldnt chill though. by the time i realized you flaked all my friends had already gone out
her: Uh... I'm soooo sorry...
her: I feel so bad
me: its cool
me: no use cryin over spille dmilk
her: we gotta chill again though
me: sure
me: whatever's ever clever
her: definitely...
her: I'm off Saturday...
me: okie
me: you gonna flake again?
me: lol
me: or even pick up your phone?
her: We'll figure something out...
her: Shut up...
her: Of course I will
me: but you always say that
me: i think
her: huh?
me: that you should call me instead
her: ok
me: you never pickup, even when you say you will
me: so ive given up
her: yeah i do!
her: Usually
me: nope
her: lol
me: hehe
her: ok
her: ok
her: sorry
me: but yeah, you can call me if you wanna chill
her: i will
me: sounds good


and later, when she left:

her: call me tomorrow...
her: do u have school/
her: huh?
me: nope, you call me
me: and no i dont have school tomorrow
her: ok
her: ok
her: your strange
me: why's that?
her: but i'll call you
her: you know...


all input welcome.

 

[sapphire]

Looks like she is trying to drag you in again to play her silly attention wh0re games. Don't buy it. Next time she contacts you, don't even respond. Just cut all contact with her altogether and walk away. These types of girls thrive on drama that you don't need.

 

[sapphire]

Looks like she is trying to drag you in again to play her silly attention wh0re games. Don't buy it. Next time she contacts you, don't even respond. Just cut all contact with her altogether and walk away. These types of girls thrive on drama that you don't need.

 

[cannibustacap]

Don't say what she did was okay (referring to when she flaked in your chat log). That is giving her too much power (if it were me, I'd tell her straight out "I don't want to be with someone like you"). Make sure she knows you are the man always and if she can't handle that consider finding someone else right away. Get rid of your ego, you don't need to bang every chick who talks to you and has a nice face. **** your ego and go with what is truly best for you. Girls should pick up on that, it is more powerful. (read this somewhere on DJ, I forget the exact post.. I think it was Anti-Dump.. but I'm not sure).

if she is looking for love on the Internet...

She needs a real man, to bang her.


She's not looking for a BF on the net.


Next date, stop at a gas station, when she asks why, tell her you need to buy some rubbers.... if she is still in the car when you get back..... You're in.

Dude, does that really work? I mean of course she'll probably be in the car, what is she going to do? walk 10 miles home? Describe how you go about doing this act. To me it sounds very confident and manly, but it may make a girl insecure and worried if she wasn't already thinking on sexual lines about you.