"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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question! need advice quick! hurry please!!

J

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okay so there's this girl, and I've been telling her that she's my "spark," and she's always like "what are you taaaaaaalking about???"
So then earlier today she sent me an email with the web definition of spark:

woo: to try to persuade somebody to become romantically or sexually involved

and then she said

"OOOOOH! That clears EVERYTHING up..."

So how do I reply to THAT??
I'm stumped.

My friend said to send give her a link to a Martin Gaye song. XD
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bEtx2YTcD94


sooooo what do I do? I've got a hold of her and I don't wanna mess it up. :p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JustAnotherLover said:
wait wha?
I thought I'm never ever supposed to tell her how I feel! :crazy:
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You're not.

Nino-Tk didn't say to tell her how you feel. He said to tell her your INTENTIONS.


And your intentions are to take her out,right? To date her,right?

Well? So what's the problem with what Nino-Tk advised you? Ask her out.

Stop telling her that she's your "spark",or whatever else you want to call her and simply TELL HER you want to take her out.


You should have done that from the get-go instead of calling her pet names.


Not saying that it's over with,but you can bet she's wondering how she became your "spark" when you two haven't even been out on one date yet.


You don't know her. You two might go out and you discover that other than her apperance,you like nothing about her.



You're also not being a challenge. You telling her that she's your spark let's her know that she's basically won you over by doing absolutely NOTHING.



All she had to do to become your spark was simply exist.


"She's walking? She's talking? She's a female who's breathing? Well that settles it. She's my spark."



No good man. She wants to have to invest SOMETHING of herself into you.


If she invests nothing,then she can lose nothing. And she has to feel like she could be losing SOMETHING by not getting involved with you.


Otherwise she won't care.


Just stop it with the "pet" names and simply ask her out.
 
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No no no no waaaaait a sec.
I said I'm gonna take her out already! And she does like me! I think. :p
I got kino going and good convo and everything! (well, not everything)
I just wanna know how to reply to this email. D:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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