"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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question! need advice quick! hurry please!!

JustAnotherLover

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okay so there's this girl, and I've been telling her that she's my "spark," and she's always like "what are you taaaaaaalking about???"
So then earlier today she sent me an email with the web definition of spark:

woo: to try to persuade somebody to become romantically or sexually involved

and then she said

"OOOOOH! That clears EVERYTHING up..."

So how do I reply to THAT??
I'm stumped.

My friend said to send give her a link to a Martin Gaye song. XD
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bEtx2YTcD94


sooooo what do I do? I've got a hold of her and I don't wanna mess it up. :p
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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JustAnotherLover said:
wait wha?
I thought I'm never ever supposed to tell her how I feel! :crazy:
You're not.

Nino-Tk didn't say to tell her how you feel. He said to tell her your INTENTIONS.


And your intentions are to take her out,right? To date her,right?

Well? So what's the problem with what Nino-Tk advised you? Ask her out.

Stop telling her that she's your "spark",or whatever else you want to call her and simply TELL HER you want to take her out.


You should have done that from the get-go instead of calling her pet names.


Not saying that it's over with,but you can bet she's wondering how she became your "spark" when you two haven't even been out on one date yet.


You don't know her. You two might go out and you discover that other than her apperance,you like nothing about her.



You're also not being a challenge. You telling her that she's your spark let's her know that she's basically won you over by doing absolutely NOTHING.



All she had to do to become your spark was simply exist.


"She's walking? She's talking? She's a female who's breathing? Well that settles it. She's my spark."



No good man. She wants to have to invest SOMETHING of herself into you.


If she invests nothing,then she can lose nothing. And she has to feel like she could be losing SOMETHING by not getting involved with you.


Otherwise she won't care.


Just stop it with the "pet" names and simply ask her out.
 

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No no no no waaaaait a sec.
I said I'm gonna take her out already! And she does like me! I think. :p
I got kino going and good convo and everything! (well, not everything)
I just wanna know how to reply to this email. D:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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