"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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question! need advice quick! hurry please!!

JustAnotherLover

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okay so there's this girl, and I've been telling her that she's my "spark," and she's always like "what are you taaaaaaalking about???"
So then earlier today she sent me an email with the web definition of spark:

woo: to try to persuade somebody to become romantically or sexually involved

and then she said

"OOOOOH! That clears EVERYTHING up..."

So how do I reply to THAT??
I'm stumped.

My friend said to send give her a link to a Martin Gaye song. XD
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bEtx2YTcD94


sooooo what do I do? I've got a hold of her and I don't wanna mess it up. :p
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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JustAnotherLover said:
wait wha?
I thought I'm never ever supposed to tell her how I feel! :crazy:
You're not.

Nino-Tk didn't say to tell her how you feel. He said to tell her your INTENTIONS.


And your intentions are to take her out,right? To date her,right?

Well? So what's the problem with what Nino-Tk advised you? Ask her out.

Stop telling her that she's your "spark",or whatever else you want to call her and simply TELL HER you want to take her out.


You should have done that from the get-go instead of calling her pet names.


Not saying that it's over with,but you can bet she's wondering how she became your "spark" when you two haven't even been out on one date yet.


You don't know her. You two might go out and you discover that other than her apperance,you like nothing about her.



You're also not being a challenge. You telling her that she's your spark let's her know that she's basically won you over by doing absolutely NOTHING.



All she had to do to become your spark was simply exist.


"She's walking? She's talking? She's a female who's breathing? Well that settles it. She's my spark."



No good man. She wants to have to invest SOMETHING of herself into you.


If she invests nothing,then she can lose nothing. And she has to feel like she could be losing SOMETHING by not getting involved with you.


Otherwise she won't care.


Just stop it with the "pet" names and simply ask her out.
 

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No no no no waaaaait a sec.
I said I'm gonna take her out already! And she does like me! I think. :p
I got kino going and good convo and everything! (well, not everything)
I just wanna know how to reply to this email. D:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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