You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I think he's seeing the point of your question. You're just looking for an answer that encourages you to stay with her.Thatfeel21 said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
^^Wow, that's the problem with this forum...I never said she argues all the time or that I ever have to plan my night around her because of it! Damn! She's nowhere near that bad or even approaching that, jesus. I was simply asking what ya'll do when your woman is in a *****y mood and youre just not in the mood for it? For the only the 2nd time, I am dating a woman that is challenging, confident and speaks her opinion; I'm not going to simply NEXT her because of a semi-vague post that is warped into your own perspective.Iceberg said:
So, the problem with this forum is that people read what you write and form opinions on it.Thatfeel21 said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I don't hang out with her.Thatfeel21 said:
I think this is the best way. You don't reflect the drama, you keep yourself calm and present. She'll try to fight with nothing to fight against. Now, she may hate that. She might want you to argue with her, think that's the way to show that you care about her. But who wants a girl like that anyway? If she wants to break up because you don't want to argue, good riddance.handle said:
Well said.backbreaker said:
. She is a manager at her job Thatfeel21 said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Mantis Toboggan said:
rotfl dude eveyone is rereading your post and it says the same thing.Thatfeel21 said:
You dump her or you choose a life of misery.Thatfeel21 said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.