Question for the Pros...

[Jon55]

So I was browsing through this thread the other night (GREAT info by the way!) and came across this tid bit at the end:

Make the woman WORK to get you. This doesn’t mean becoming passive or disinterested, it means going on with your life and if she wants to come along, fine, but you have some ground rules. If she isn’t consistent, then she is GONE.

This is one part of women I could never understand or gauge very well. I know it's important to be a challenge to keep the girl on her toes/into you, but I can never seem to be able to really gauge how much I should "back off" (or whatever you do to keep her attention) so her interest in you rises.

 

[Lust]

Gauge?

So, in the end, you are still working for the girl.

You are still working to understand and "gauge" how much work you should put in with the backing off.

Wrong idea. Read the paragraph again.

She must be the one working for you. You must truely be the busier, more interesting and less clingly one.

Don't "pretend" to make her feel attracted to you, you're just lying to yourself. Actually be challenging, make sure she knows that you will leave her if she doesn't put the effort in in contacting you, because you have an interesting life, and she has to convince you to make time for her.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...This is one part of women I could never understand or gauge very well. I know it's important to be a challenge to keep the girl on her toes/into you, but I can never seem to be able to really gauge how much I should "back off" (or whatever you do to keep her attention) so her interest in you rises.

You should never be in so deep (so to speak) that you would need to back off. Keep an active social life with hobbies, friends, work/school and other women and you will find that you'll never be in so much where you'd need to back off.