"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Question for smokers...Chantix?

imarockstar

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Hey guys, I really wanna quit smoking. Its frickin hard though. Sh*t I was addicted to pills for a while but Ive been smoking for about 6 years so its kind of a lifestyle thing that I cant imagine my life without them. I also drink on the weekends and I cant really imagine drinking and not smoking. Ive been hearing really great things about chantix. Ive also heard of a small portion of people who had bad side effects. Just wondering if anyone here has taken it and what the results were like
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cure

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If you cant imagine drinking and not smoking, stop drinking.

you say you "really wanna quit smoking", thats good, so stop drinking, stop hanging out with people who smoke/in places where people smoke, and stop buying ciggeretes, theres a whole load of patches/replacement niccotine therapys out there, have you tried any?

good luck
 

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I went cold turkey around 3-4 months ago and still going strong, I did slip twice during the first 2-3 weeks as I got really drunk and was offered a cigarette. I then decided not to get drunk ( i had a drink here and there but made sure never to get drunk/hammered/whatever) for a month which helped greatly as you are in a clear state of mind and simply saying no is much easier.

Do it man, I smoked for around 5 years too and you'll THANK YOURSELF for it. You really start noticing how much better you feel all of a sudden pretty quickly, more energy. Food that used to taste good now make me jizz my pants, sense of smell has gotten so much better, I recently sat next to someone on the bus who clearly just had a cigarette and I just got disgusted by the smell coming off him worse is the fact that I was that guy for the last 5 years and could never notice. If anything i can see that smell being a major turn off for women whenever you try to get your game on.

I've never tried Chamtix but I do know about it, what you said about possible negative side effects is what put me off a bit worried in case I am part of the small minority who are effected by it although i do know people who have used it with no side effects who said it was great, takes the edge of it big time. What I did instead though was go cold turkey, drink lots of water and buy some St. Johns wort (cant remember the exact one I purchased right now but what it relieves is feelings agitation,anxiety, depression etc. its basically helps keep your mood balanced)

anyway rockstar, go for it and good luck!

ps: that feeling every time you have a cigarette is a feeling you'll enjoy 24/7 as a non-smoker
 

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chantix could give you some serious side effects especially if you are a little worried before hand or have any of the stuff.
 

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I've heard that some people on Chantix have really weird dreams. I went cold turkey about five years ago. There are many different treatments to stop smoking. Some people quit using the patches and gum, so quit cold turkey and some use Chantix. If you are having a really difficult time quitting then ask your doctor about Chantix. Also the drinking is a trigger and you either need to be strong when you are around triggers or you need to avoid them.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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imarockstar

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happy to say i bought some patches a couple days ago. i smoke about a pack a day, but yesterday i put a patch on and commited to not smoking. had 2 last night, and ive been awake for 6 hours today and havent had one yet. its not so bad, im enjoying the effects im having so far way more than a cigarette. i feel like i can breathe, and im not coughing up a bunch of junk. a little irritable but i also have way more energy and im a lot more animated and it seems like im able to focus on things better. so far so good
 
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