"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
question for everybody, HOW DO YOU CREATE A GOOD REP
- Thread starter young--j
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Good list.Originally posted by MVPlaya
Dress nice, walk with good posture, be nice to people (in daily behavior), have a good disposition, show active leadership skills, help people out when they need it, have a group of driven friends, do not take shit from anyone, learn that a good reputation is not something you get just by reading this post, act as if you know everything will come to you eventually, do not be needy, clingy, or insecure, be confident, smile, and know how to joke with people.
Reputation is perhaps the MOST IMPORTANT way to get girls. Looks help a LOT, so does $$, so does fame. Rep is a sort of fame, and is VERY important. It is VERY underestimated on these boards.
To get a good rep, you have to be the coolest cat in the group. Style wise, but also just with the way you carry yourself, the way you talk, with conviction, with respect etc. U can also be the alpha male, either way, you have to be someone not to take ****, and who commands respect from their peers. Not only will woman come flocking, but life in general will be much easier.
I will say the epitamy (however you spell it) of cool and creating a good rep would have to be Johnny Depp. He plays wierd rolls in movies, plays geeks, freaks and Don Juan himself. You dont have to talk much, but when you do, make it count, and make people want to listen. Celebrities all over the world respect Johnny more than nearly ALL other celebs, just look at his world famous Viper Room.
TooColdUlrick
Master Don Juan
looks, $$$, and fame have nothing to do with it, unless you're in the Hollywierd crowd. i know people who have none of those three things, and they have fantastic reps. i also know people who have all of three of them who are azzholes, and lonely lost souls.
somewhat universal things to remember:
--talking shiat about other people behind their backs is uncool. it's sooo easy to do and too many people do it. people will naturally wonder if you're talking shiat behind THEIR back.
--never brag about yourself--people hate that. instead, put yourself in the position of having OTHER people brag about you. that's what a rep is, right?
--be very consistent about certain key "things" as to your persona. it's all about marketing 101--you have to keep driving the message home (what is this message?). however, on incidental side-issues, mix it up a bit. don't be a boring, predictable, static, drone.
--always move forward in life, with a smile on your face, and a child-like enthusiasm. people LOVE this type of attitude because you bring people up, not down. if you can pull this off genuinely, you will be a magnet.
--lastly...it takes years to build your rep, but it can be destroyed in a second (e.g. Clinton).
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Charisma: have a certain way you approach and talk to others, be bright, energetic, enthusiastic, and positive. pretty much be friendly with everyone
Treat others how you would like to be treated.
be cool w/everyone, say hi to everyone even if you dont know them.
about rep: if you do something cool or something that ppl will remember you buy, they will practically instantly like you/know you. just DONT DO ANYTHING STUPID.