Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
question for everybody, HOW DO YOU CREATE A GOOD REP
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Good list.Originally posted by MVPlaya
Dress nice, walk with good posture, be nice to people (in daily behavior), have a good disposition, show active leadership skills, help people out when they need it, have a group of driven friends, do not take shit from anyone, learn that a good reputation is not something you get just by reading this post, act as if you know everything will come to you eventually, do not be needy, clingy, or insecure, be confident, smile, and know how to joke with people.
Reputation is perhaps the MOST IMPORTANT way to get girls. Looks help a LOT, so does $$, so does fame. Rep is a sort of fame, and is VERY important. It is VERY underestimated on these boards.
To get a good rep, you have to be the coolest cat in the group. Style wise, but also just with the way you carry yourself, the way you talk, with conviction, with respect etc. U can also be the alpha male, either way, you have to be someone not to take ****, and who commands respect from their peers. Not only will woman come flocking, but life in general will be much easier.
I will say the epitamy (however you spell it) of cool and creating a good rep would have to be Johnny Depp. He plays wierd rolls in movies, plays geeks, freaks and Don Juan himself. You dont have to talk much, but when you do, make it count, and make people want to listen. Celebrities all over the world respect Johnny more than nearly ALL other celebs, just look at his world famous Viper Room.
TooColdUlrick
Master Don Juan
looks, $$$, and fame have nothing to do with it, unless you're in the Hollywierd crowd. i know people who have none of those three things, and they have fantastic reps. i also know people who have all of three of them who are azzholes, and lonely lost souls.
somewhat universal things to remember:
--talking shiat about other people behind their backs is uncool. it's sooo easy to do and too many people do it. people will naturally wonder if you're talking shiat behind THEIR back.
--never brag about yourself--people hate that. instead, put yourself in the position of having OTHER people brag about you. that's what a rep is, right?
--be very consistent about certain key "things" as to your persona. it's all about marketing 101--you have to keep driving the message home (what is this message?). however, on incidental side-issues, mix it up a bit. don't be a boring, predictable, static, drone.
--always move forward in life, with a smile on your face, and a child-like enthusiasm. people LOVE this type of attitude because you bring people up, not down. if you can pull this off genuinely, you will be a magnet.
--lastly...it takes years to build your rep, but it can be destroyed in a second (e.g. Clinton).
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Charisma: have a certain way you approach and talk to others, be bright, energetic, enthusiastic, and positive. pretty much be friendly with everyone
Treat others how you would like to be treated.
be cool w/everyone, say hi to everyone even if you dont know them.
about rep: if you do something cool or something that ppl will remember you buy, they will practically instantly like you/know you. just DONT DO ANYTHING STUPID.