"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Question: Do you think money, fame, status, lots of hb10 would make you happier?

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Most people are so involved in ego games that they simply can't see the real truth about things.

Most valuable things like money, status, looks and so on make your life easy and give you some kind of freedom but the real problem with all of us is what we do with our time on this earth?

So we unconsciously follow our parents and other people without questioning anything. And that's not a bad thing but we are just doing it subconsciously. That's it.

So when most people meet someone who doesn't value what they value they think he is insane. The problem is that w most people don't accept the differences between them and someone else because when they meet someone who doesn't value what they value and chase their entire lives they start questioning their life decisions and the path it takes.

It's when a the so called nice guy discover that the girl of his dreams is just a dirty bítch and give what she withhold from him to others just like that like attention, validation, sex, recognition..etc. So he start questioning what he thinks and believes and that turn his world upside down when he realize that what he has been believing his entire life is simply and illusion or utter búllshìt.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BraddH said:
I wonder if anyone else feels that Joseph is contradicting himself too much here.
I dont get it, you say that you are happy with where you are now and then you say that there is no reason to be happy as you are.
He's saying he's happy but there's room for improvement, basically
 

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om1xr said:
Most people are so involved in ego games that they simply can't see the real truth about things.

Most valuable things like money, status, looks and so on make your life easy and give you some kind of freedom but the real problem with all of us is what we do with our time on this earth?

So we unconsciously follow our parents and other people without questioning anything. And that's not a bad thing but we are just doing it subconsciously. That's it.

So when most people meet someone who doesn't value what they value they think he is insane. The problem is that w most people don't accept the differences between them and someone else because when they meet someone who doesn't value what they value and chase their entire lives they start questioning their life decisions and the path it takes.

It's when a the so called nice guy discover that the girl of his dreams is just a dirty bítch and give what she withhold from him to others just like that like attention, validation, sex, recognition..etc. So he start questioning what he thinks and believes and that turn his world upside down when he realize that what he has been believing his entire life is simply and illusion or utter búllshìt.

I still want to skype with you. I believe that life is very balanced. No matter what you do, you will get as much good as bad. And I dont say it based on someone else saying it like Buddha. It is based on my own experience. In fact, saying that i believe it is wrong. It is my experience!

For example, when i stop desiring anything, my life is very free and I have no misery, frustation or anything negative emotions. But at the same time, I dont feel joy or happiness. Or the feeling of getting your desire fulfilled. Do you get me?
 

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Infern0 said:
He's saying he's happy but there's room for improvement, basically
I think he is just lost, doesnt know what he is saying. Why would you be happy like you are but still not enough happy that you need to become better and more?
 

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Of course it would. To say it wouldn't is almost a resignation that it will never happen.

A man is supposed to ultimately extract as many resources from the world as possible and share them as efficiently as possible. Indeed, doing so makes him happy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bigneil said:
Of course it would. To say it wouldn't is almost a resignation that it will never happen.

A man is supposed to ultimately extract as many resources from the world as possible and share them as efficiently as possible. Indeed, doing so makes him happy.
And if he fails? He will be sad, mad, frustated.

I know I know, he will get up and do it again as many times as he can.

Just keep in mind that if he didn't have that huge ego, he would have saved himself from so many miseries, and frustations.
 

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He can't fail at being generous.

Either way, the fat girl gets nothing.
 
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