"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Question about your effectivness when- drunk.

damnbugs

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OK- I will explain a little.

When I am completely sober I am battling against inhabitions-

When I am drinking moderatly its game on and I do well, but I have problems closing-

When I am drunk...

Okay here is an example;
The night started with a get together with a large group of friends at a house drinking. Thats when I set my target- Sarah. She was easily the best looking one there. I made good progress there and then we left for the bar. At the bar we were still getting along great but I got to the point where I was drunk enough that I knew I was forgetting the steps and actions I needed to be taking to close properly, so knowing that we will meet up again soon I decided to flake on her and gave up the attack.
I figured I would be able to contuinue and build on it our next meeting.

How do you guys keep the game on when you get drunk?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dukester

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alcohol fvcks everything up dude. if you wanna get women, dont get drunk. if you get them drunk then it's not cool, cuz then they dont really know whats going on.
stay away from the alcohol when you are around girls. trust me on this one
 

Eternal

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Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
Make sure she's drunker than you.
Worst...Advice...Ever.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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alcholol helped me when I was really shy and just starting out. I would say outragous things to great looking girls not caring what anyone thought. To my suprise I realized that most would play along. Now I dont need the alcholol for that as my confidence has gone up.
 

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Only you know your limitations.

Stick to beer - and you should easily find the fine line you need to walk in order to pull this off.

SOme people can not handle it. Others can.
 

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Listen to Dukester, fellas.
 

damnbugs

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NewMan;

Thanks for the advice- I am going to find the "fine line" and stick to it.

I just fininshed a week long drinking binge. During this time I did end up getting drunk- every night- but I kept the game on. One particular night I was at the bar and spotted two hotties. I walked over and sat down with them without asking and started chatting it up. I worked one against the other the whole time and had them laughing. I did this while 5 of my friends were standing there silent just watching.
So even though I was drunk I was able to get favorable results.

I think being out of the dating scene for so many years is the underlying problem. I notice the more I go out the more comfortable I feel.
 
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