niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
@mrgoodstuff I think you're right. But I was drinking to get myself in the mood. I think her little games are really putting me off.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Question about the friend zone
- Thread starter niceguytoalphamale
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
lamath
Master Don Juan
This can be a reason, drinking also can kill the sex drive.
If she play games id show her how i play games by Nexting her.
Still Next is the best way to go
niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
touma.akagi
Senior Don Juan
You make it sound so easy, it won't be like that for every guy
zekko
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When it comes to banging girls you are "friends" with:
I think that if you enjoy her friendship/company, and also happen to want to bang her, that's okay.
But if you are her friend and you think you love her, that's a toxic situation.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.