"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Question about single/taken women and eye contact

bobbob

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Hi, I'm wondering if anyone has had similar experiences in regards to getting eye contact from certain women.

I've noticed that if a woman is by herself, I almost never get eye contact from her, even if we walk right by eachother.

But girls that are with their boyfriends, a lot of times they make eye contact with me, and sometimes even smile!

Does this happen for anyone else, and if so, what do you think the reason is.

I'm thinking it's because the single women don't have as much confidence as the ones who are with their bf's, and don't feel comfortable/secure enough to make eye contact. Or I could be way off, who knows.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJ_Dork

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It depends. pay attention to how she acts/touches you rather than eye contact.
 

luv_ya_amj

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Da di da da...IT JUST DEPENDS!

Well hun...

Considering that I'm currently single...

If I EVER look down (eh, I'm more of a look away girl myself)...it's usually cuz I've seen the guy...and I DON'T want him to talk to me!!! This gesture hopefully gets that point across...

Unfortunately, this doesn't work ALL the time -- silly guys still trying to pick me up, so in that case, it comes down to simple bravery on the guys part...(LOL...the poor desperate fools...).

BUT --- THEN AGAIN...

I also look away if it's a cute guy or some ugly a*s girl--don't matter! Just don't want to be bothered!

For me, my looking away has to do with me NOT wanting a bf (or any potential stalkers...LOL)--as well as, not even wanting to be on ANY guy's "radar screen" so to speak...(which as mentioned doesn't always work in my favor...)

But nope! I don't consider myself a shy girl at all (fortunately and UNfortunately, I'm known as being very confident esp. when it comes to business matters, meeting different people, but NOT "flaunt it confident" if ya know what I mean...LOL--much too busy for that sh*t...).

Now...when I'm out with family or friends (remember...NO bf here...!), I definitely look at MOST people in the eyes and smile cuz...com'on man, ya gotta admit...you do feel MUCH happier when you're out someplace w/ someone you CARE about...and GUESS WHAT?!...

...IT SHOWS!!!!!! :p

BUT...as you sit at your desk, pondering your "stressing" situation--don't get all wrapped in a phone cord over it (ooo, SO old school!)...

As my personal scenario and advice indicates...There's nothing to really worry about...Some girls are shy, some just know how ACT shy (heh, I'm a perfect example thank you acting school!! YAY!). [However, remember to never assume any of this...be very careful...or your a*s might get pushed to the curb...]

Just REMEMBER these words when it comes to girls...OR ANY frickin' HUMAN for that matter--

IT JUST DEPENDS!! (we ALL have very different reasons for how we act!)

Have a super nice day!

;)
 

Fatality

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Originally posted by bobbob
Hi, I'm wondering if anyone has had similar experiences in regards to getting eye contact from certain women.

I've noticed that if a woman is by herself, I almost never get eye contact from her, even if we walk right by eachother.

But girls that are with their boyfriends, a lot of times they make eye contact with me, and sometimes even smile!

Does this happen for anyone else, and if so, what do you think the reason is.

I'm thinking it's because the single women don't have as much confidence as the ones who are with their bf's, and don't feel comfortable/secure enough to make eye contact. Or I could be way off, who knows.
Girls are always more confident with friends. That's why they go to the bathroom together and never go out alone .

If a girl looks down when you walk by her I think she either likes you and you make her nervous or she is just an insecure person.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Fatality

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Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
^^^^^ anyone make any sense of that steaming pile of sh*t written in the post above me? :confused: :confused: :confused:
I read over it twice and I'm still confused.
 

DJ_Dork

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Originally posted by Fatality
I read over it twice and I'm still confused.
Just goes to show that women are natural psychos. Right?
 

luv_ya_amj

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Sorry DJ Dork...sure wish it did...

No, seriously though, it just shows all the fellas have a LONG way to go...

Keep coming to this site...there's STILL hope...

God speed guys.
 

Omega

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Uh, anyways, moving past the female opinions of a male oriented site...

When girls look down, or anyone for that matter, it's a sign of insecurity. They may say otherwise but be honest with yourself, if you were Donald Trump persay, would you be looking at the ground all the time, or up into the air taking a whiff of the air you could have bottled and sold for another couple billion.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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anyone make any sense of that steaming pile of sh*t written in the post above me?
What part of the response can't you figure out? It seems pretty simple to me.

For those of you that aren't smart enough to figure out what her response meant, I'll simplify it for you.

It all depends on the MOOD of the person you're making eye contact with. Think about that for a little while, and you'll see how true her response was.
 

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OK, back to bobbob's post.

I have noticed that same phenomenon that you speak of. Whenever I go eat somewhere and I sit in the outside patio and it's a high traffic area, I the women that give me strong eye contact usually have a significant other with them 98% of the time. They'll smile, sometimes even turn their head to look at me while their boyfriend is oblivious. On the other hand, women who are by themselves or are with friends only rarely give EC.

I wish I knew why, but I've noticed it too.
 

thebsharp

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Man that post made by luv_ya_amj irritate the hell outa me and not to mention pointless.

I also notice the more attractive woman will give you more eyecontact so it comes down to confidence thing.
 

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I had even had good eye contact and even a smile and when i asked the girl still got no . forget looking away .

it all depends on the mood the person is in . on her charecter , and those are things we can never figure out . so i personaly think every girl diserves a shot , just aks them dont think about all these things , u will reach no where and , and by the time u figure out what the eye contact ment she will be gone
 

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As the chickie here said, its impossible to generalise

but

Having a partner gives us all more confidence

Thats more confidence for a girl to look at guys she likes... but ALSO more confidence to attention wh0re

ie, a girl will often feel safer LEADING YOU ON or BEING A COKKTEASE with that guy in tow

Also, everyone sometimes uses "relationship confidence" to look for the better deal


... man, she could be looking at you/not looking at you for SO MANY REASONS... dont trust EC alone.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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