You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
:rockon:Veridin said:And the rule in foreplay is, when you think you have spent enough time on one aspect of it, you do that aspect twice more.
Don't be focused on an outcome in sex other than having fun. If you're worried about your performance or too preoccupied with imagining yourself cvmming on her, you'll probably experience what you're thinking about and you'll be anxious and cvm on her before you even get it inside.AlmostThere! said:Do you bring a girl to orgasm first before having sex with her? Do you perform oral and/or finger her for a while, have sex, then bring her to an orgasm?
What are some good techniques?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Rep added!! It's all about fun. No need to over analyse...just go with the flow and with your instincts!! and like 'Im In The Mood' said, seek knowledge not advice!! :rockon:I'm in the Mood said:Don't be focused on an outcome in sex other than having fun. If you're worried about your performance or too preoccupied with imagining yourself cvmming on her, you'll probably experience what you're thinking about and you'll be anxious and cvm on her before you even get it inside.
Use her body's responses, and your natural instincts to help guide you during sex. Also, it's a really good idea to read up on some sex-related material. There is a lot of stuff out there online, and you can ask people you know for information.
Don't seek advice, seek knowledge.
I've noticed that you've started a lot of threads on here, and while it is very useful to be inquisitive, you shouldn't overload yourself with concepts and materials on seduction and pickup. Imagine taking like 5 classes at once in college, it's LOTS of work. Combined with your own life, you should focus on this stuff here lightly but deeply.
A recent thread of yours was titled "I want a relationship" or something of the sort I believe. Don't stress yourself on sex before you even have the pvssy to sex.
Relationships are easier to form than most people think. If you're interested in one, I suggest you first learn the psychology of relationships and how they are created.
Peace.
I'm curious, why do you say women are most stimulated by security?ThatMysteriousGuy said:Women are most stimulated by anticipation, security, and lack of fear of negative consequences.
They'd like to feel safe when they're around you. That's a main attraction factor right from the first second and a large part of why Social Proof is so important. When a woman sees other women completely relaxed around you it'll crank up the interest even if you don't speak a word.I'm in the Mood said:I'm curious, why do you say women are most stimulated by security?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.