Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
:rockon:Veridin said:And the rule in foreplay is, when you think you have spent enough time on one aspect of it, you do that aspect twice more.
Don't be focused on an outcome in sex other than having fun. If you're worried about your performance or too preoccupied with imagining yourself cvmming on her, you'll probably experience what you're thinking about and you'll be anxious and cvm on her before you even get it inside.AlmostThere! said:Do you bring a girl to orgasm first before having sex with her? Do you perform oral and/or finger her for a while, have sex, then bring her to an orgasm?
What are some good techniques?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Rep added!! It's all about fun. No need to over analyse...just go with the flow and with your instincts!! and like 'Im In The Mood' said, seek knowledge not advice!! :rockon:I'm in the Mood said:Don't be focused on an outcome in sex other than having fun. If you're worried about your performance or too preoccupied with imagining yourself cvmming on her, you'll probably experience what you're thinking about and you'll be anxious and cvm on her before you even get it inside.
Use her body's responses, and your natural instincts to help guide you during sex. Also, it's a really good idea to read up on some sex-related material. There is a lot of stuff out there online, and you can ask people you know for information.
Don't seek advice, seek knowledge.
I've noticed that you've started a lot of threads on here, and while it is very useful to be inquisitive, you shouldn't overload yourself with concepts and materials on seduction and pickup. Imagine taking like 5 classes at once in college, it's LOTS of work. Combined with your own life, you should focus on this stuff here lightly but deeply.
A recent thread of yours was titled "I want a relationship" or something of the sort I believe. Don't stress yourself on sex before you even have the pvssy to sex.
Relationships are easier to form than most people think. If you're interested in one, I suggest you first learn the psychology of relationships and how they are created.
Peace.
I'm curious, why do you say women are most stimulated by security?ThatMysteriousGuy said:Women are most stimulated by anticipation, security, and lack of fear of negative consequences.
They'd like to feel safe when they're around you. That's a main attraction factor right from the first second and a large part of why Social Proof is so important. When a woman sees other women completely relaxed around you it'll crank up the interest even if you don't speak a word.I'm in the Mood said:I'm curious, why do you say women are most stimulated by security?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.