That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
:rockon:Veridin said:And the rule in foreplay is, when you think you have spent enough time on one aspect of it, you do that aspect twice more.
Don't be focused on an outcome in sex other than having fun. If you're worried about your performance or too preoccupied with imagining yourself cvmming on her, you'll probably experience what you're thinking about and you'll be anxious and cvm on her before you even get it inside.AlmostThere! said:Do you bring a girl to orgasm first before having sex with her? Do you perform oral and/or finger her for a while, have sex, then bring her to an orgasm?
What are some good techniques?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Rep added!! It's all about fun. No need to over analyse...just go with the flow and with your instincts!! and like 'Im In The Mood' said, seek knowledge not advice!! :rockon:I'm in the Mood said:Don't be focused on an outcome in sex other than having fun. If you're worried about your performance or too preoccupied with imagining yourself cvmming on her, you'll probably experience what you're thinking about and you'll be anxious and cvm on her before you even get it inside.
Use her body's responses, and your natural instincts to help guide you during sex. Also, it's a really good idea to read up on some sex-related material. There is a lot of stuff out there online, and you can ask people you know for information.
Don't seek advice, seek knowledge.
I've noticed that you've started a lot of threads on here, and while it is very useful to be inquisitive, you shouldn't overload yourself with concepts and materials on seduction and pickup. Imagine taking like 5 classes at once in college, it's LOTS of work. Combined with your own life, you should focus on this stuff here lightly but deeply.
A recent thread of yours was titled "I want a relationship" or something of the sort I believe. Don't stress yourself on sex before you even have the pvssy to sex.
Relationships are easier to form than most people think. If you're interested in one, I suggest you first learn the psychology of relationships and how they are created.
Peace.
I'm curious, why do you say women are most stimulated by security?ThatMysteriousGuy said:Women are most stimulated by anticipation, security, and lack of fear of negative consequences.
They'd like to feel safe when they're around you. That's a main attraction factor right from the first second and a large part of why Social Proof is so important. When a woman sees other women completely relaxed around you it'll crank up the interest even if you don't speak a word.I'm in the Mood said:I'm curious, why do you say women are most stimulated by security?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.