Are there a lot of people with social anxiety that they continue to live in their late 20s and so on doing nothing? They may have went to college but never went out to apply for a job b/c of social anxiety issues? Yes, many guys have problems with women but are there some ppl that have this affect them to the point where they don't look for a job for years or never do?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Question about people with social anxiety?
- Thread starter warrior1
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
man, i really didn't get quite what you wanted to know. anyways, if you are really suffering from social anxiety and you feel that it is a big hindrance to your game, i would say keep pushing it, i mean your comfort zone. you would at times chicken out, in fact, most times, and would really get angry at yourself and feel like beating yourself up, but that is the thing or energy or passion that will make you do it the next time. it's hard, remember but you can do it if you will so. and another thing, while you are trying to social anxiety, remember and REMEMBER to work on your inner game (self esteem and self confidence). it always starts inside!
WC2
Master Don Juan
schttrj said:
Anxiety is usually roots from insecurity from within. I find that most people with social anxiety don't really have a lot going on for them. Is this why they feel inadequate and stressed out in social situations? I'm sure it's part of it.
DarthAngel707
Don Juan
In my opinion, people are not born with social anxiety. Everybody was naturally social and precious as babies, but when you are in school either you get bullied or something happens that makes you fearful of your peers/society.
However, there is hope. In the same way you got your social anxiety, you can undo it by graudally going out and talking to people. Talk to a stranger, ask them for the time. Eventually you WILL get used to it. You may still be a little nervous but it will be drastically less than you first started.
Good luck man and I hope you find the job you like and want.
However, there is hope. In the same way you got your social anxiety, you can undo it by graudally going out and talking to people. Talk to a stranger, ask them for the time. Eventually you WILL get used to it. You may still be a little nervous but it will be drastically less than you first started.
Good luck man and I hope you find the job you like and want.
I am certain I suffer from some form of social anxiety, coupled with insecuritie and lazyness, which probably attributes to negative social situations, to the point where I have avoided or been more nervous than normal. However, I do have a job I have managed to hold for 3 years now. As for going out, meeting people, chattting up strangers, I do not want to be percieved as a creep, that may come from feeling shy or nervous.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.