Are there a lot of people with social anxiety that they continue to live in their late 20s and so on doing nothing? They may have went to college but never went out to apply for a job b/c of social anxiety issues? Yes, many guys have problems with women but are there some ppl that have this affect them to the point where they don't look for a job for years or never do?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Question about people with social anxiety?
- Thread starter warrior1
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
man, i really didn't get quite what you wanted to know. anyways, if you are really suffering from social anxiety and you feel that it is a big hindrance to your game, i would say keep pushing it, i mean your comfort zone. you would at times chicken out, in fact, most times, and would really get angry at yourself and feel like beating yourself up, but that is the thing or energy or passion that will make you do it the next time. it's hard, remember but you can do it if you will so. and another thing, while you are trying to social anxiety, remember and REMEMBER to work on your inner game (self esteem and self confidence). it always starts inside!
WC2
Master Don Juan
schttrj said:
Anxiety is usually roots from insecurity from within. I find that most people with social anxiety don't really have a lot going on for them. Is this why they feel inadequate and stressed out in social situations? I'm sure it's part of it.
DarthAngel707
Don Juan
In my opinion, people are not born with social anxiety. Everybody was naturally social and precious as babies, but when you are in school either you get bullied or something happens that makes you fearful of your peers/society.
However, there is hope. In the same way you got your social anxiety, you can undo it by graudally going out and talking to people. Talk to a stranger, ask them for the time. Eventually you WILL get used to it. You may still be a little nervous but it will be drastically less than you first started.
Good luck man and I hope you find the job you like and want.
However, there is hope. In the same way you got your social anxiety, you can undo it by graudally going out and talking to people. Talk to a stranger, ask them for the time. Eventually you WILL get used to it. You may still be a little nervous but it will be drastically less than you first started.
Good luck man and I hope you find the job you like and want.
I am certain I suffer from some form of social anxiety, coupled with insecuritie and lazyness, which probably attributes to negative social situations, to the point where I have avoided or been more nervous than normal. However, I do have a job I have managed to hold for 3 years now. As for going out, meeting people, chattting up strangers, I do not want to be percieved as a creep, that may come from feeling shy or nervous.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.