question about my oneitis

[connor32]

so i saw this girl (9.5) for like six months. i fell in love with her. i played it cool for awhile, but eventually i f'd up and became a puppy.( telling her how much i cared,being mesmerized when i looked at her,etc...) when she dumped me she turned from a really sweet girl to a seriously cold ***** out of nowhere. telling me things like "we never had anything", ignoring me, refusing to even be friends with me, telling me im trying to hard. my question is do u think girls get off on breakin hearts and being really cold? why do they do it? is it a power trip?.

 

[Beast from the East]

Damn that is so cold and familiar... the moral of this story is never go AFC man, it's the kiss of death.

I would rather be a dead man then be an AFC.

 

[connor32]

i hear you bro. i f'n knew better. i played it cool for a long time. but i think eventually u let your guard down.

 

[Beast from the East]

i hear you bro. i f'n knew better. i played it cool for a long time. but i think eventually u let your guard down.

And they go from being loving and sweet one day, to completely flipping the next day and they hate you forever.

It's normal for an AFC to experience this because AFC's are disgusting.

 

[connor32]

And they go from being loving and sweet one day, to completely flipping the next day and they hate you forever.

It's normal for an AFC to experience this because AFC's are disgusting.

lol. hahahaha. your right. for some reason i find that hilarious.

 

[randalll]

it isnt oneitis ive got, but i like a 9 at the minute, we were seeing each other for about a month and she's the first girl i slept with.

i think all she really wants is sex and alcohol tho, and i aint gonna buy her 3 drinks every night we're out, so i broke things off with her (the old me would have given her anything she wants)

i know i could invite her round here, tell her how i really feel about her and everything, in the hope that she'll say the same back to me. and i know that we would still be friends if i did it because so many guys have told her the same thing (and after she screwed them about they are still buying drinks for her!)

but ive learnt to respect myself more than that.. and would only ever tell a girl i liked her if she earned it, and that would take a while. something this girl will never do.

 

[connor32]

it isnt oneitis ive got, but i like a 9 at the minute, we were seeing each other for about a month and she's the first girl i slept with.

i think all she really wants is sex and alcohol tho, and i aint gonna buy her 3 drinks every night we're out, so i broke things off with her (the old me would have given her anything she wants)

i know i could invite her round here, tell her how i really feel about her and everything, in the hope that she'll say the same back to me. and i know that we would still be friends if i did it because so many guys have told her the same thing (and after she screwed them about they are still buying drinks for her!)

but ive learnt to respect myself more than that.. and would only ever tell a girl i liked her if she earned it, and that would take a while. something this girl will never do.

i hear ya. but my original question is what makes a chick become such a b'tch even after a guy was really good to her. i mean she and i really had a connection.

 

[Wodan]

I think they get put off, repulsed and even disgusted if u care more about them, next time im waiting for the girl to say i love you first.

 

[Teh_Wolf]

yeah its like this girl i knew, shes not very attractive but i didnt really mind her that much. I knew she prolly liked me and crap but it didnt really bother me, also im a pretty friendly guy so after a bit i got a look from someone I could see clearly they thought i liked her too and i was noticin all these things she was doing, follow me around, lookin at me random ect and it got kinda friggin obvious and i wasnt into it at all. I was pretty repulsed by it after not too long and just wanted nothing to do with her.

now i talk to her minimum i have to and never make eye contact with her and if i do i break it off very fast otherwise she uses it as a way to try to talk to me lol. I cant give a good reason, i just cant stand her anymore

 

[randalll]

i hear ya. but my original question is what makes a chick become such a b'tch even after a guy was really good to her. i mean she and i really had a connection.

i know, its a pain isnt it. in my opinion its different from girl to girl. the one i was seeing would never be a b'tch to me, even if i went afc on her. but some would get a kick out of it id imagine. you'd need to ask someone more experienced for a better answer

i disagree with sebastionay though. lots of girls like guys who care about them (although this wouldn't create attraction), but not if they show they care too soon

 

[TruthTeller]

Honestly I dont think its afc to care about a female. You should show that u care to an extent but dont flip out if they catch u off guard with their sh1t

 

[Infamous_Wolf]

i hear you bro. i f'n knew better. i played it cool for a long time. but i think eventually u let your guard down.

but that's the thing. You call it letting your gaurd down, but that really the nice guy trying to weasel his way back in to controlling your actions. he's really clever like that. Being a DJ isn't a skill, it's a lifestyle. You must change your entire perception of yourself, your actions, what society is and how it functions. Of course there are alot of stumbles along the way, but recognize it for what it is. Love is an amazing emotion and can be very awesome to experience, but if you're going to express it, you have to express it like the DJ expresses it. I can't tell you what that is exactly because I'm on the way to figuring it out myself. Just remember, *any* woman you may find yourself attracted to, no matter how powerful the urge may be to get really sappy and lay down your feelings before her, is not worth sacrificing your self respect for. This is not how a man expresses himself.

 

[Guybrush]

Everybody did that at some point in their lives. Just remember that you are NEVER allowed to act overtly with women.

There are multiple steps in becoming a DJ:

1. ) Read the theory OVER and OVER.

2.) Memorize the FUNDAMENTAL rules if they don't make sense to you

3.) Go out and do lots of practice

4.) Falsify the rules that are not in accordance with what you observed. Make sure you FALSIFY the rules by statistically meaningful data.

5.) Do more practice and Internalize the rules.

6.) Forget the rules and reach the nirvana of a DJ

7.) You have no mind now. You are a natural

 

[connor32]

but that's the thing. You call it letting your gaurd down, but that really the nice guy trying to weasel his way back in to controlling your actions. he's really clever like that. Being a DJ isn't a skill, it's a lifestyle. You must change your entire perception of yourself, your actions, what society is and how it functions. Of course there are alot of stumbles along the way, but recognize it for what it is. Love is an amazing emotion and can be very awesome to experience, but if you're going to express it, you have to express it like the DJ expresses it. I can't tell you what that is exactly because I'm on the way to figuring it out myself. Just remember, *any* woman you may find yourself attracted to, no matter how powerful the urge may be to get really sappy and lay down your feelings before her, is not worth sacrificing your self respect for. This is not how a man expresses himself.

great reply thanks

 

[WC2]

Do women get off on things like this? Consciously, most likely not. Unfortunately, most of the mind works in the subconscious. And subconsciously, yes this gives her a shot of self-confidence right to the dome.

Think about it. In a way, she conquered you. Her conscious mind won't let her think this way because after all she is a nice girl who would never do that, right? But behind all this, she won't admit it, but she feels extremely empowered and ready to move on to a more worthy male.

I know, harsh words but guess what? We've all been through it. Any guy who hasn't is simply lying. Hopefully you learn on your first mis-step and you don't make another 2 or 3 (I've seen many make the same mistake for years!).

You should feel empowered in your own self right now. You've observed your actions, found your mistake, and you're ready to move on and conquer it. In your mind you're still hurting from this girl, and that takes time. But you must push through the pain and realize that it's a blessing in disguise. In all likelihood, even if you played this out right, things would have ended sooner or later anyways. Sadly, most relationships do no matter how well you play it. Best of luck.

 

[connor32]

your right man i do feel empowered. in the sense that if i meet another girl that blows my mind i wont be an afc to her. the pain over this chick has been f'n sick. i used to make fun of guys that were heartbroken. i'd be like "just get over it bro." now i understand. there's been times were i literally felt like i couldnt breathe. .......look at me going on and on like an afc.... anyways....thanks for the reply.

 

[Scars]

Their niceness changes with their IL. I've seen really sweet girls turn into complete b!tches. It happens.

 

[Poonani Maker]

If a woman, doesn't believe in me, she's worthless to me. If I sense her thinking that I gained my position in life only through connections and not through sheer hard work, then she's nothing to me. She can sniff and sniff and speculate as to if I have strength or where I get my strength from or deny my strength, but she will pay the price when I sense a disrespect of me by my cutting her off for good so she can go back to being with her poser boyfriends.

My last oneitis totally discredited me out of thin air and what others who were jealous of me said about me. While she was completely honest, I don't respect her because she listened to other people's opinion over mine and her own.

Her loss and I don't care. I tried to help her. She refused. Now she will suffer a lifetime without someone who genuinely loved and clicked with her.

Why a woman would want to throw something special away is beneath me.

Women usually RUIN all relationships, because they're WEAK on average. There ain't nothing I can do to help them. It's biological. They're socialist beasts that cannot be contained, most of them.

 

[dannyegg4575]

I disagree. I really think that women respond strongly to challenge.

Women want someone who is a challenge in every aspect. Not someone who cares for her or do things for her. He can be sweet to her and all that other stuff but he has to be hard to get.

Think of it as a marathon. If you are a 9.5, like you said, there are million of other guys after you who would do the exact same thing. What makes you think you doing the same thing will have her shed any light to you?

I have my fair share of women attracted to me when I was younger. Unless she's super hot, i don't give her the time of day and at most, treats her like a little sister. I didn't have to be mean to her. I just couldn't imagine having sex with her. Same thing goes for women.

if you're too easy to get, there's no point in getting you. You're always around. simple.

 

[Poonani Maker]

if you're too easy to get, there's no point in getting you. You're always around. simple.

Why bother with such a woman? If the moment You get Her, she thinks she's got you, she dumps or divorces you. Volatile women like that are not on my horizon of prospects.