"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Question about crushes.

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Hey guys, I have been to this site in the past, and I knew I could come here with a story/question.

I am an 18 year old freshman in college. I am a theatre major, so when we are doing shows, the department gets fairly close since we spend almost everyday with each other.

Recently, a girl whom I have no feelings for told me that she has a crush on me. She says that I am one of the cutest guys in the department, and that she would like to date me. The thing is, I can never see myself with this girl.

Another dilemma I run into is that I have a crush on her roommate. I could never make any moves because she had always had a boyfriend. Now she has broken up with her boyfriend, but her roommate has a crush on me.

The last piece, is that she is 21 and I am only 18. I am not sure how she feels about dating a younger guy, and I am wondering what I should do in my situation.

Any helpful tips, or advice would be greatly appreciated.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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For starters, talking to the this girl you have a crush on would be a good start.

I don't know what other advice you are looking for.
 
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Threesome. (thought I would be the first to mention that....)

You should know what you should be doing. You like a chick, go for the damn chick. End of topic.
 
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I don't want to pursue this one girl, and have the other get mad. That would be bad since they are roommates.

But I pretty sure I am coming down with a case of oneitis.
 
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just pursue her. after all you're both into drama. get it?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ActorMan said:
I don't want to pursue this one girl, and have the other get mad. That would be bad since they are roommates.
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This sounds like it's coming out of a little girl's mouth. You're not a woman, man up. If you care about what everyone thinks then you're going to live one miserable life.
 
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I figure if I piss the one off, the one I like will see her mad, and in turn think I am a jerk.
 
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I'm going to b!tch slap you...

ActorMan said:
Hey guys, I have been to this site in the past, and I knew I could come here with a story/question.

I am an 18 year old freshman in college. I am a theatre major, so when we are doing shows, the department gets fairly close since we spend almost everyday with each other.

OK READY - THIS IS GOING TO BE PURE EVIL: act like a girl that has a guy who has just confessed a crush whom she doesn't like - OMG, the horns!!! THEYRE COMING OUT OF MY HEAD...hahahahaahhaahaaa

Recently, a girl whom I have no feelings for told me that she has a crush on me. She says that I am one of the cutest guys in the department, and that she would like to date me. The thing is, I can never see myself with this girl.

Be like...wow, I've been thinking about it...and I'd like to know a little more about you before I decide if we can have a future together...you SEEM cool, but I'd really need to get to know you better to understand what kind of person you are.

Then have her cook you dinner, clean your dorm room, buy you clothes, suck your dihk, wait for you at home while you phuk other girls - er I mean studying - then suck your dihk again, meet all her girlfriends, have her tell these great stories about you massively social proofing you, e.g. OMG, he's so hot, I love him so much, he's the greatest...NOT LIKE ANY GUY I'VE EVER MET....etc....it will be great - you'll love it;

Another dilemma I run into is that I have a crush on her roommate. I could never make any moves because she had always had a boyfriend. Now she has broken up with her boyfriend, but her roommate has a crush on me.

DO NOT Phuk-Up and hit on her roomie...that opportunity will present itself by virtue of your "dating" - and I do mean "dating" - not exclusive, because she has to prove that she is worth it by buying you things, cooking you dinner, doing a threesome with her roomie, etc... GET IT!!!! OH MAN, I AM ENVIOUS....

The last piece, is that she is 21 and I am only 18. I am not sure how she feels about dating a younger guy, and I am wondering what I should do in my situation.

CLEARLY SHES OK WITH IT - I say work this chick - it will be a great experience...I see threesomes, dinners, gifts, and MANY cool things in your future my boy...

Any helpful tips, or advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Veritas Lux Mea
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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