"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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question about calling gf on phone

mongoose01

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gotta question everyone. i have a gf and we're pretty close (she says she loves me). there's something that bothers me about her though and i need some feedback.

when i call her on the phone (celly mostly), she usually either doesn't answer (she'll usually calls back a few minutes later), she's talking to so and so and has to call me back, or just has to call me back. this happens very often.

example for today:

i saw her this morning at 6 am (she drove back home). i haven't heard from her since. i called her around 3 or 4, but no answer. she never called back either. she had to attend a family reunion meeting, but i forgot what time that takes place.

i would think that someone that professes love and all that stuff would at least call you to see 'how ya doing' (today is sat). i know she knows i called (her cell has caller id), so why do you guys think she constantly does that? am i being an AFC pvssy or should i not just think about it. is she being the challenge by fvcking with me. the weird thing is, she pursued me? another thing: i can see her whenever i want.

tell me what you guys think!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Caveman

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I agree with slickster.

Are you calling her too often? Like the freak bf that's checkin her every move?
Or mabe she is on the hbforum where girls get the advice to never answer the phone directly esp if it is their bf :D
 

Ever onward

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This has happened to me far too many times....the girl suddenly has lost interest.....doesn't make you a priority like the way she once did....then later you find out there is someone else....you're in trouble man.

If she is your gf her IL should be high.
 

Genghis Juan

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Have you and the girl previously had "the talk" yet? Have you had sex yet?

Usually, if people are an "item", the girl will usually pump up the drama and eventually make you miserable, then dump you.

However, if the two of you are just dating, then either she is just not ready to lay the meat hooks in you, or she is just not interested in you, or is losing interest in you.

Be careful dude.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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