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question about a girlfriend's or even a hookup buddy's past partners

J S Az

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Recently, I have this hookup buddy, which may turn into a girlfriend, but I also do the hookup buddy thing with a girl before deciding if I want to make her my girlfriend.

I have met some of her ex's and seen pictures of others, and they are all ugly and they are all losers. she is cute and a real cool girl. it turns me off BIG TIME, though, that she has all these ugly loser ex's. I'm not really sure why though. maybe it's some insecurity of mine?

Anyone else experience this ever?
 

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The insecurity you're feeling is that you're afraid that you too might be an ugly loser, just like her ex's. Don't worry about it, you aren't. At least I hope not... :p
 

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Originally posted by diablo
The insecurity you're feeling is that you're afraid that you too might be an ugly loser, just like her ex's. Don't worry about it, you aren't. At least I hope not... :p
see the thing is I KNOW (i think.. ?) I'm not an ugly loser like these dudes. that's why it's a turnoff that she was with all them in the past, and not one good dude. I don't know.
 

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You would actually consider making a hook up buddy a grilfriend!!! Doesn't this break some sort of rule or law in the handbook!!!!
 

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My comments are:

You are insecure trying to compare the ex's.

So what are you doing? instead of being different, focus your game on her, you focus to her ex....

Wake up! You don't care about her past, you care about how fun it is to be with her. Flirt for the skirt man. Its your game and no Ex's is welcome in that.

Go ahead work on that.

Regards

Wind20mph
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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