"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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question about a girlfriend's or even a hookup buddy's past partners

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Recently, I have this hookup buddy, which may turn into a girlfriend, but I also do the hookup buddy thing with a girl before deciding if I want to make her my girlfriend.

I have met some of her ex's and seen pictures of others, and they are all ugly and they are all losers. she is cute and a real cool girl. it turns me off BIG TIME, though, that she has all these ugly loser ex's. I'm not really sure why though. maybe it's some insecurity of mine?

Anyone else experience this ever?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The insecurity you're feeling is that you're afraid that you too might be an ugly loser, just like her ex's. Don't worry about it, you aren't. At least I hope not... :p
 
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Originally posted by diablo
The insecurity you're feeling is that you're afraid that you too might be an ugly loser, just like her ex's. Don't worry about it, you aren't. At least I hope not... :p
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see the thing is I KNOW (i think.. ?) I'm not an ugly loser like these dudes. that's why it's a turnoff that she was with all them in the past, and not one good dude. I don't know.
 
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You would actually consider making a hook up buddy a grilfriend!!! Doesn't this break some sort of rule or law in the handbook!!!!
 
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My comments are:

You are insecure trying to compare the ex's.

So what are you doing? instead of being different, focus your game on her, you focus to her ex....

Wake up! You don't care about her past, you care about how fun it is to be with her. Flirt for the skirt man. Its your game and no Ex's is welcome in that.

Go ahead work on that.

Regards

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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