Hi guys,
I have appreciated your advice a while ago. So I'm writing again... this time for a close friend. She and her husband are married for 1 year and just got their first baby. The little girl was born very premature and is a lot of work... I mean A LOT!!!
Her husband has turned out to be not very supportive. He lost his job and apparently stucks in a deep crisis, i.e. doesn't look for work, doesn't help with homework, doesn't help with the Baby (5 months now) only hangs out with his mates. He tries to make my friend feel guilty for not being a good mom and is a crap dad himself.
I know him quite well. He is not a bad guy, a little childish and naive at times but generally ok. At the moment, however, he acts like a complete *******. Since my friend has moved to her parents for a while (she went there because of better health system and to get support from her parents) he seems to go wild. Another friend has seen him picking up girls in a nightclub. He hasn't called my friend for some time now and shows no interest in her or his little daughter.
Now, I'm interested in your bet guys. What's wrong with him??? Have you been in a similiar position? Is it that terrible to become a dad? I have to say that initially he wanted it! Both of them are not that young anymore (around 40) so everyone was quite surprised when she fell pregnant. But he was ok until his girl was born. Does he regret it? Is there anything my friend can do? At the moment my friend goes for: let him run... he'll come back. But as you can imagine, she feels terrible.
marge s.
I have appreciated your advice a while ago. So I'm writing again... this time for a close friend. She and her husband are married for 1 year and just got their first baby. The little girl was born very premature and is a lot of work... I mean A LOT!!!
Her husband has turned out to be not very supportive. He lost his job and apparently stucks in a deep crisis, i.e. doesn't look for work, doesn't help with homework, doesn't help with the Baby (5 months now) only hangs out with his mates. He tries to make my friend feel guilty for not being a good mom and is a crap dad himself.
I know him quite well. He is not a bad guy, a little childish and naive at times but generally ok. At the moment, however, he acts like a complete *******. Since my friend has moved to her parents for a while (she went there because of better health system and to get support from her parents) he seems to go wild. Another friend has seen him picking up girls in a nightclub. He hasn't called my friend for some time now and shows no interest in her or his little daughter.
Now, I'm interested in your bet guys. What's wrong with him??? Have you been in a similiar position? Is it that terrible to become a dad? I have to say that initially he wanted it! Both of them are not that young anymore (around 40) so everyone was quite surprised when she fell pregnant. But he was ok until his girl was born. Does he regret it? Is there anything my friend can do? At the moment my friend goes for: let him run... he'll come back. But as you can imagine, she feels terrible.
marge s.