Quality vs quantity

[FlexpertHamilton]

As I've gotten older I've grown to care far less about "getting pvssy" and more about honing in on the best woman I can find. Specifically, high interest women who make it easy for you, who are agreeable, eager to please, young, sexy, and good in bed. That's all I want and probably all that any man wants. My peace of mind has become so important that I find most women to be too destabilizing to spend time with, even if its casual.

I was having a discussion with a friend of mine and we came to the conclusion that you meet 1 high quality girl every 2-3 months on average (if you are actively looking to some degree). I think this is accurate. It might sound low but that means like 4-6 opportunities to pursue high quality women per year. That's a lot. If any 1 given girl doesn't work out you might feel like ~3 months is a long time to meet another, but you just need to be patient and continue living your life. The alternative is filling those gaps with women are complete messes, inviting unnessary chaos and drama in your life, in an effort to "spin plates" and cope.

I am wondering if anyone else experiences this and if you have found as you get older that going on dry spells until find you find a keeper is better for your sanity and tranquility.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

"Pleasure of sex" man vs "Thrill of the hunt" man. In theory every man is more inclined to one or the other.

Guys posting Lay Reports, they are all about the hunt, they prefer variety of women over quantity of sex (with one woman), and I think there is nothing wrong with that. Pleasure of sex guys prioritize quantity of sex (with one woman they consider high quality) than variety of women, nothing wrong with that either.

You have posted about having an average lower libido than the average guy iirc. Makes sense you would prefer a "quality" woman over plate spinning. Nothing wrong with that.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

"Pleasure of sex" man vs "Thrill of the hunt" man. In theory every man is more inclined to one or the other.

Guys posting Lay Reports, they are all about the hunt, they prefer variety of women over quantity of sex (with one woman), and I think there is nothing wrong with that. Pleasure of sex guys prioritize quantity of sex (with one woman they consider high quality) than variety of women, nothing wrong with that either.

You have posted about having an average lower libido than the average guy iirc. Makes sense you would prefer a "quality" woman over plate spinning. Nothing wrong with that.

Variety/novelty also factors in for sure. Novelty is a huge mechanism for raising libido or anything dopamine related in general. That's why I value having sex with women of various ethnicities, ages, body types (not including fat), etc. Though I will never turn down a cute 21 year old tiny blonde girl.

Some types of women that are very played out. Not unnattrative, just so dime a dozen it's hard to give a shvt unless they're exceptionally sexy.

 

[The Duke]

A few years ago I got to the point that I was done putting in any major effort. I had been there, done that, and had many successes. The "thrill of the hunt" desire was still there, but my "i am tired of the bullschitt and have less tolerance for games" often overrid it.

When I ran across a new girl, I'd let them show me what category they fit in. If they were low quality then they were basically treated as plate status. If they appeared to be quality, then I showed more interest and care for them and would see where things went. This kept me out of dryspells and let me keep my sanity.

Eventually I found a quality chic that is everything I could want in a woman. If I told you guys how I met such a great girl, you guys would never believe me. I damn sure wasn't looking.

 

[pipeman84]

I was having a discussion with a friend of mine and we came to the conclusion that you meet 1 high quality girl every 2-3 months on average (if you are actively looking to some degree). I think this is accurate.

I think you meet 1 high quality girl once maybe twice in a lifetime. It's like winning the lottery ... now if you consider $10 or suchlike you win on a scratchcard as a lottery win, then sure, it can happen every 2-3 months.

 

[Velasco]

think you meet 1 high quality girl once maybe twice in a lifetime.

i agree with this. a physically attractive girl is a lot more common than a physically attractive girl who is also high self esteem, not a wh0re, submissive and great in bed.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I think you meet 1 high quality girl once maybe twice in a lifetime. It's like winning the lottery ... now if you consider $10 or suchlike you win on a scratchcard as a lottery win, then sure, it can happen every 2-3 months.

its all relative

i don't mean high quality enough to marry

just high quality enough to enjoy spending time with her for 3-6 months

or high quality can mean young and hot and easy

 

[Bokanovsky]

As I've gotten older I've grown to care far less about "getting pvssy" and more about honing in on the best woman I can find. Specifically, high interest women who make it easy for you, who are agreeable, eager to please, young, sexy, and good in bed. That's all I want and probably all that any man wants. My peace of mind has become so important that I find most women to be too destabilizing to spend time with, even if its casual.

Quality 100%. It's not even question.

I don't understand the obsession with quantity that some guys have. I think they are compensating for the fact that they can't get above average women. Like when someone says his notch count is 50 or 100 or 200 or whatever it may be. If those 200 were all 3's, 4's and 5's, the guy would have been better off staying a virgin.

 

[Solomon]

As I've gotten older I've grown to care far less about "getting pvssy" and more about honing in on the best woman I can find. Specifically, high interest women who make it easy for you, who are agreeable, eager to please, young, sexy, and good in bed. That's all I want and probably all that any man wants. My peace of mind has become so important that I find most women to be too destabilizing to spend time with, even if its casual.

I was having a discussion with a friend of mine and we came to the conclusion that you meet 1 high quality girl every 2-3 months on average (if you are actively looking to some degree). I think this is accurate. It might sound low but that means like 4-6 opportunities to pursue high quality women per year. That's a lot. If any 1 given girl doesn't work out you might feel like ~3 months is a long time to meet another, but you just need to be patient and continue living your life. The alternative is filling those gaps with women are complete messes, inviting unnessary chaos and drama in your life, in an effort to "spin plates" and cope.

I am wondering if anyone else experiences this and if you have found as you get older that going on dry spells until find you find a keeper is better for your sanity and tranquility.

If you're meeting 1 quality girl every 2-3 months, you're doing well. When I think of quality, I'm thinking a girl I would get in a relationship with that checks all the boxes I would say maybe 1 every 5-10 years. This is a girl who doesn't have any dealbreakers or red flags. The older you get the harder it is to find

Perosnally I refuse to deal with low-interest women, I wasted lot of my time in my 20s and early 30s chasing them. I was supposed to go on a date with a cute chick who lives 12 minutes from me, but the conversation just felt off, she seemed somewhat abrasive and asked me questions about my ex before etc. Lo and behold I said one thing she didn't like she blew up at me and I told her I hope she finds what she is looking for and blocked her. I'm at this stage where I don't walk on eggshells to get a woman they are qualifying to me and not vice versa,t he smart ones get it most of them don't,

To me quality isn't just about looks these days but a woman's energy and how she approaches me etc

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Quality 100%. It's not even question.

I don't understand the obsession with quantity that some guys have. I think they are compensating for the fact that they can't get above average women. Like when someone says his notch count is 50 or 100 or 200 or whatever it may be. If those 200 were all 3's, 4's and 5's, the guy would have been better off staying a virgin.

After seeing some guys post about women they find attractive, and after finding out some guys aren't "into" dating younger women, I've begun to suspect that a lot of guys with extraordinarily high body counts are porking mostly 3-5s.

Personally, I'd rather **** one 8/10 than one hundred 5/10s.

And this is just to speak of attractiveness, not even personality. Though ironically enough, I find that the more attractive women actually tend to have way better personalities than mids.