Qualities of a man that women, "truly", appreciate

[tesla8520]

In your real experiences, what are the qualities that women have TRULY appreciated most in a man?

Beyond what they might say, so the qualities they've truly appreciated, and not qualities they've talked about openly, but the ones you've managed to capture.




In my personal opinion,

physical appearance -> height, preferably with muscles.

material possessions (preferring a swindler to an honest poor man)

ability to make fun of others while putting on a good face in front, and badmouthing behind.

kindness (can't distinguish between genuine and narcissistic kindness)

be avoidant.

not to be intimate: to escape (especially when they want or will say that it needs to be more "Intimate". In that case she wants you to move away and will find sources to vent/validate the pain she suffers. With friends, family, social media. Potentially, she could cheat, but he will always be her number 1)

compromise (in a human-friendly ratio of 3 nos and 1 yes)



If I had to describe a typical man, he has his life from 9 in the morning to 9 in the evening, so he will have breakfast with her, and if he has children, then he goes to work, and comes back at 9 in the evening, washes, has dinner, will do some activity with the children, and maybe if he has time have sex, otherwise he is the one who rejects her who wants to approach him with sex (anxious), but he avoids (avoidant).
On weekends he has his breakfast activities with his family but then goes off on his own, maybe runs some other business with friends, etc.
He'll come home late before dinner, and repeat.









This is just my experience, in my culture.
Curious to hear your experience out there.

 

[RobbyDog]

In my experience, one of the qualities women want most in a man is EMOTIONAL STABILITY. Women simply don’t feel safe around a man who can’t control his anger/anxiety/disappointment, or who goes overboard with positive emotions. They want the man to be the strong, calm, stable one so they can feel safe and act like feminine women.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

The ability to give her Vaginal Tingles plus her perception of being of a higher status than her.

 

[BaronOfHair]

-Strong sense of self-worth, even if this sometimes borders on arrogance

-Being "on your purpose"

-Alongside the last point: Adeptness at altering one's external environment

 

[Rocky_Hendrix]

The ability to give her Vaginal Tingles plus her perception of being of a higher status than her.

this.

 

[plumber]

The ability to give her Vaginal Tingles plus her perception of being of a higher status than her.

perfect. the issue is how to VT. for sure that is the secret sauce.

 

[Manure Spherian]

ability to make fun of others while putting on a good face in front, and badmouthing behind.

In other words be a two faced scumbag.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Different women appreciate different qualities.

If you ask 20 women you might get 20 different answers. Some would overlap, some would not.

 

[Slowhandluke]

Different women appreciate different qualities.

If you ask 20 women you might get 20 different answers. Some would overlap, some would not.

yeah, this is true... but only once safety, shelter, food are already acquired....

when the basics are not obtained, then its about not starving, not dying in a storm, etc... the strong powerful men (and the characteristics that come with it) rule during bad times. Thats what get women wet... or else they die.

 

[The Duke]

The ability to lead, charm, and have awareness, are attractive to every woman I've ever met.

 

[Prepostereax]

If you remind her of her father*, in a good way

*{this assumes a woman with a normal healthy relationship with her father}

You should not be pursuing a relationship with a woman who lacks a decent father figure, unless it's for "recreational purposes only"
Such women will have more shallow values, prone to drama, and possibly be disturbed

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

Your level of independence from her as well as being able to effect agency over your life. Having a good network of people who respect you to the point she can see the dynamic change when you enter into the mix.

 

[BadBoy89]

Women don't "appreciate" anything. They all have entitlement issues. Even the older ones. Women only care about a man's usefulness.

If she's younger and wants to get pregnant -> vain items are important; height + hair
If she's older and can't get pregnant -> all the non vain items -> charm, laughter, sweetness, control, etc. and one non vain item -> money

How a man acts and treats a woman depends on her youth.

 

[SmoothHendrixPS2]

having her clean my bathroom, cook for me, fold my clothes, roll my joints, massage me. Everything on my time. Acting like I don't really like her that much. Being busy... ignoring her... damn near assaulting her when we bang...curving her an hour before we made plans, getting them a 25 dollar gift card at ulta for V day. You get the point.

welcome to the dark side. There's no going back.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Good face
Big dvck
Nice body

 

[tesla8520]

They want the man to be the strong, calm, stable one so they can feel safe and act like feminine women.

Not my experience.
Is that something that depends either by their biology (so it's something which is universal appealing like you said) or just something from their inprinting (which could actually confirm the fact I see many reactionary, angry, conflictual man in solid LTR's?

or who goes overboard with positive emotions

also this is huge. they'll do this, and actually you can see the women are turned on.

What you're describing it's for sure a man of other times, which today is seen as a boring, old, man?

The ability to give her Vaginal Tingles plus

and you bring those to her by being a man @RobbyDog described?

-Strong sense of self-worth, even if this sometimes borders on arrogance

-Being "on your purpose"

-Alongside the last point: Adeptness at altering one's external environment

this reminds me of the quality both good and bad man possess. The manipulator is the bad one.

Different women appreciate different qualities.

If you ask 20 women you might get 20 different answers. Some would overlap, some would not.

as @RobbyDog said, there must be "universal" appealing things

when the basics are not obtained, then its about not starving, not dying in a storm, etc... the strong powerful men (and the characteristics that come with it) rule during bad times. Thats what get women wet... or else they die.

so you say after their needs are met, they want another type of man.. which??

The ability to lead, charm, and have awareness, are attractive to every woman I've ever met.

and you could be this and be bad or good still. as above, those traits are sociopats or manipulators. It's easier for them.

If you remind her of her father*, in a good way

Infact you can remind her of her "bad" father too. Good point

If she's younger and wants to get pregnant -> vain items are important; height + hair
If she's older and can't get pregnant -> all the non vain items -> charm, laughter, sweetness, control, etc. and one non vain item -> money

This is underrated, you should discuss more this point, please expand the two scenarios

 

[Slowhandluke]

so you say after their needs are met, they want another type of man.. which??

Too numerous and diverse to list (sometimes someone similar to her father, maybe the mans smell reminds her of a good period in her life, maybe shes ovulating at the time, maybe the man reminds her of a Korean pop star she likes, etc.. etc)

its like a man who has sex with a really hot woman.. and there are many other hot women chasing after him; he may ultimately decides to form a lot term relationship with one that reminds him of his 4th grade teacher.

 

[tesla8520]

Too numerous and diverse to list (sometimes someone similar to her father, maybe the mans smell reminds her of a good period in her life, maybe shes ovulating at the time, maybe the man reminds her of a Korean pop star she likes, etc.. etc)

its like a man who has sex with a really hot woman.. and there are many other hot women chasing after him; he may ultimately decides to form a lot term relationship with one that reminds him of his 4th grade teacher.

If a woman likes you, it's because you remind her of someone... and you as a man can understand who that person was in her life: how?

 

[BaronOfHair]

@tesla8520 "this reminds me of the quality both good and bad man possess. The manipulator is the bad one"

Analogy for you 3:20-3:53

Manipulating one's external environment(those in it included)requires a shred or two of intelligence, and intelligence can have both beneficial and adverse effects on those who possess said trait... The more clever a fella is, the more tools he has to rationalize antics that are having a corrosive effect on both himself and the planet at large

Sadly, there are no hard and fast methods for preventing a man from falling into such potholes... We're all constantly falling on our asses, getting back up, then striving to be more adroit than we were previously, with varying degrees of success

 

[Slowhandluke]

If a woman likes you, it's because you remind her of someone... and you as a man can understand who that person was in her life: how?

You can't. same as a man who picks an attractive women to be his wife among many other attractive women. At the end of the day, sometimes its just random. A random attractive women will not be able to know what his "trigger" is... his tipping point. There's just too many variables.

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Try as you may, people do have preferences that they will use to discriminate one attractive person from another.