You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I have either neglected or not been doing hip mobility enough, this will change. There is actually this one exercise in particular- the one where you sit on the ground bow legged and touch your knees to the ground. I used to be really good at that and gained a lot of the flexibility back recently- I seemed to forget about it when I was doing stretches in the last month or so and I've lost quite a bit of the flexibility again. This will change.MrS said:clearly you have been neglecting your hip mobility and rotator cuff exercises
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Everyone has the typical good and bad days, that's normal. But as far as the dangers of alcohol, sooner or later excessive drinking will catch up with you. I don't drink (never had the desire for it), but when there is something we like, there is the tendency to over-indulge. I like candy but I know I have to be careful not to eat too much of it. Ultimately, we have to come to the decision about how much of the "vice" we want and to control the urge, you know?Quagmire911 said:Monday
Well I did a deload. Absoulutely no f***ing motivation and felt energless not to mention weak. I wonder why...
Bench 60kg 2x5 - Even this felt odd.
Lat pulldown 60kg 2x5
Single leg raises 2x5
So yeh, the drinking was way out of hand last week. Pretty much got drunk every night and I am feeling it now. Need to ask myself what is more important? Long term there is no question. I just have to moderate it to sensible levels again. Its actually pretty sad, it was becoming normal just to get some cider every night and get pissed. Well yeh, but then there ain't going to be any test left is there? Dumb s***. I've decided I don't like this scenario, and also the long term health risks. So I'm adamant on this. From this week it will be twice a week- Tuesday and Saturday and not out of hand. I'll be taking a week or two of around Christmas so there may be lee way there. I am then seriously considering taking January off again.
Well there it is. I don't enjoy being weak. Until next time...
Quagmire
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thank you, but three will be better...frenchbeauty said:Bench 90kgx5 102.5kgx1 (226lbsx1)
Man two platesNice Quag
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.