That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I have either neglected or not been doing hip mobility enough, this will change. There is actually this one exercise in particular- the one where you sit on the ground bow legged and touch your knees to the ground. I used to be really good at that and gained a lot of the flexibility back recently- I seemed to forget about it when I was doing stretches in the last month or so and I've lost quite a bit of the flexibility again. This will change.MrS said:clearly you have been neglecting your hip mobility and rotator cuff exercises
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Everyone has the typical good and bad days, that's normal. But as far as the dangers of alcohol, sooner or later excessive drinking will catch up with you. I don't drink (never had the desire for it), but when there is something we like, there is the tendency to over-indulge. I like candy but I know I have to be careful not to eat too much of it. Ultimately, we have to come to the decision about how much of the "vice" we want and to control the urge, you know?Quagmire911 said:Monday
Well I did a deload. Absoulutely no f***ing motivation and felt energless not to mention weak. I wonder why...
Bench 60kg 2x5 - Even this felt odd.
Lat pulldown 60kg 2x5
Single leg raises 2x5
So yeh, the drinking was way out of hand last week. Pretty much got drunk every night and I am feeling it now. Need to ask myself what is more important? Long term there is no question. I just have to moderate it to sensible levels again. Its actually pretty sad, it was becoming normal just to get some cider every night and get pissed. Well yeh, but then there ain't going to be any test left is there? Dumb s***. I've decided I don't like this scenario, and also the long term health risks. So I'm adamant on this. From this week it will be twice a week- Tuesday and Saturday and not out of hand. I'll be taking a week or two of around Christmas so there may be lee way there. I am then seriously considering taking January off again.
Well there it is. I don't enjoy being weak. Until next time...
Quagmire
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thank you, but three will be better...frenchbeauty said:Bench 90kgx5 102.5kgx1 (226lbsx1)
Man two platesNice Quag
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.