Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
Something we all have to remember.Being_the_Don said:We all have our off days, Quagmire. You're doing good, though.![]()
And thank you.
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Something we all have to remember.Being_the_Don said:We all have our off days, Quagmire. You're doing good, though.![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I wishHandyAndy said:How cool, is that your home gym?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
See bold above.Rampage1 said:Home gym is a good idea, though it will never be as good as the public gyms due to the variety, unless of course you are going to spend a fortune!
MY GYM DOESN'T HAVE A POWER RACK, HOW IS THAT FOR VARIETY?
Also, I am still not sure why you are aiming to get as strong as possible. It just seems silly, unless accompanied by size or needed for a sport, and don't try to argue that powerlifting. I know that but it just seems pointless!
OK...? SILLY/POINTLESS TO YOU MAYBE...?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Good for you, now kindly bugger off out of my journal :moon:Rampage1 said:self confidence? how does being strong make you confident?
opening pickle jar? wtf, you dont need to squat 300lbs+ to open a pickle jar!
of course im not wholly against being strong, but to be obsessed with it is idiotic! If you want to be the alpha male be big and have a good personality, not be stong..also if you want to give secuirty then learn how to fight!
For me, getting strong is an added benefit of getting big
Quagmire enjoys getting stronger. If he enjoys it, he has every reason to do it. Simple.Rampage1 said:self confidence? how does being strong make you confident?
opening pickle jar? wtf, you dont need to squat 300lbs+ to open a pickle jar!
of course im not wholly against being strong, but to be obsessed with it is idiotic! If you want to be the alpha male be big and have a good personality, not be stong..also if you want to give secuirty then learn how to fight!
For me, getting strong is an added benefit of getting big
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.