Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
Something we all have to remember.Being_the_Don said:We all have our off days, Quagmire. You're doing good, though.![]()
And thank you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Something we all have to remember.Being_the_Don said:We all have our off days, Quagmire. You're doing good, though.![]()
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I wishHandyAndy said:How cool, is that your home gym?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
See bold above.Rampage1 said:Home gym is a good idea, though it will never be as good as the public gyms due to the variety, unless of course you are going to spend a fortune!
MY GYM DOESN'T HAVE A POWER RACK, HOW IS THAT FOR VARIETY?
Also, I am still not sure why you are aiming to get as strong as possible. It just seems silly, unless accompanied by size or needed for a sport, and don't try to argue that powerlifting. I know that but it just seems pointless!
OK...? SILLY/POINTLESS TO YOU MAYBE...?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Good for you, now kindly bugger off out of my journal :moon:Rampage1 said:self confidence? how does being strong make you confident?
opening pickle jar? wtf, you dont need to squat 300lbs+ to open a pickle jar!
of course im not wholly against being strong, but to be obsessed with it is idiotic! If you want to be the alpha male be big and have a good personality, not be stong..also if you want to give secuirty then learn how to fight!
For me, getting strong is an added benefit of getting big
Quagmire enjoys getting stronger. If he enjoys it, he has every reason to do it. Simple.Rampage1 said:self confidence? how does being strong make you confident?
opening pickle jar? wtf, you dont need to squat 300lbs+ to open a pickle jar!
of course im not wholly against being strong, but to be obsessed with it is idiotic! If you want to be the alpha male be big and have a good personality, not be stong..also if you want to give secuirty then learn how to fight!
For me, getting strong is an added benefit of getting big
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.