"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Putting an end to this.

Kidd

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Over the past 9 months or so, I have really gotten into cigarettes and pot. I stopped pot and eased up on ciggs for 2 months for swiming, but I'm back on and been smoking about bud almost every day and a pack a day for the past 7 months.

But I have such easy access to it (friend deals), that it's just too tempting.

But not anymore. I finally feel the need to let go of all this crap. It's been slowly and slowly bringing me to the bottom of the barrel mentally and physically.

I never have any energy anymore and when I tried swimming again, I felt tired after a few laps, whch was extremely unusual for me. My short term memory has gone to hell, I can barely remember what happened 2 days ago. It sometimes actually feels weird being sober sometimes and I'm always thinking about toking up again. Whoever said pot wasn't addictive, lied. Mentally, it can be VERY addictive.

Cigarettes are a whole different story. I've tried quitting before, and failed. But I didnt go through with it. This time I will.

I'm actually burning out at the moment from an earlier session. But today I realized that finally I need to get my life on check because this **** is bringing me down.

From now on:

-No pot at all, not even on a rare occasion
-No cigarettes AT ALL. Even if I'm going insane, I'm going to pull through.
-Swim workout 5 times a week. Gym 3 times a week. Gotta get my ass back in shape.

The point of this is to get myself back to being sober again and taking better care of my health.

I will update this thread daily with my struggle for quitting cigarettes and pot.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BuryYourDead

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Kidd said:
Over the past 9 months or so, I have really gotten into cigarettes and pot. I stopped pot and eased up on ciggs for 2 months for swiming, but I'm back on and been smoking about bud almost every day and a pack a day for the past 7 months.

But I have such easy access to it (friend deals), that it's just too tempting.

But not anymore. I finally feel the need to let go of all this crap. It's been slowly and slowly bringing me to the bottom of the barrel mentally and physically.

I never have any energy anymore and when I tried swimming again, I felt tired after a few laps, whch was extremely unusual for me. My short term memory has gone to hell, I can barely remember what happened 2 days ago. It sometimes actually feels weird being sober sometimes and I'm always thinking about toking up again. Whoever said pot wasn't addictive, lied. Mentally, it can be VERY addictive.

Cigarettes are a whole different story. I've tried quitting before, and failed. But I didnt go through with it. This time I will.

I'm actually burning out at the moment from an earlier session. But today I realized that finally I need to get my life on check because this **** is bringing me down.

From now on:

-No pot at all, not even on a rare occasion
-No cigarettes AT ALL. Even if I'm going insane, I'm going to pull through.
-Swim workout 5 times a week. Gym 3 times a week. Gotta get my ass back in shape.

The point of this is to get myself back to being sober again and taking better care of my health.

I will update this thread daily with my struggle for quitting cigarettes and pot.
nothing wrong with a little weed now and then
 

Kidd

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BuryYourDead said:
nothing wrong with a little weed now and then
When your days start revolving around getting high, its just not right
 

BuryYourDead

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Kidd said:
When your days start revolving around getting high, its just not right
meh i only smoke when im with friends and just hanging out you know?? no fun to smoke alone dude :]
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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hey shut up. he's trying to quit. quit saying nothings wrong with it... youre supposed to say **** like "good choice for once"... especially if youre the first to reply. wtf is up with this forum now... people are just too stupid nowadays.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Where does a girl come into this?
 
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