"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Putting an end to this.

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Over the past 9 months or so, I have really gotten into cigarettes and pot. I stopped pot and eased up on ciggs for 2 months for swiming, but I'm back on and been smoking about bud almost every day and a pack a day for the past 7 months.

But I have such easy access to it (friend deals), that it's just too tempting.

But not anymore. I finally feel the need to let go of all this crap. It's been slowly and slowly bringing me to the bottom of the barrel mentally and physically.

I never have any energy anymore and when I tried swimming again, I felt tired after a few laps, whch was extremely unusual for me. My short term memory has gone to hell, I can barely remember what happened 2 days ago. It sometimes actually feels weird being sober sometimes and I'm always thinking about toking up again. Whoever said pot wasn't addictive, lied. Mentally, it can be VERY addictive.

Cigarettes are a whole different story. I've tried quitting before, and failed. But I didnt go through with it. This time I will.

I'm actually burning out at the moment from an earlier session. But today I realized that finally I need to get my life on check because this **** is bringing me down.

From now on:

-No pot at all, not even on a rare occasion
-No cigarettes AT ALL. Even if I'm going insane, I'm going to pull through.
-Swim workout 5 times a week. Gym 3 times a week. Gotta get my ass back in shape.

The point of this is to get myself back to being sober again and taking better care of my health.

I will update this thread daily with my struggle for quitting cigarettes and pot.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BuryYourDead

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Kidd said:
Over the past 9 months or so, I have really gotten into cigarettes and pot. I stopped pot and eased up on ciggs for 2 months for swiming, but I'm back on and been smoking about bud almost every day and a pack a day for the past 7 months.

But I have such easy access to it (friend deals), that it's just too tempting.

But not anymore. I finally feel the need to let go of all this crap. It's been slowly and slowly bringing me to the bottom of the barrel mentally and physically.

I never have any energy anymore and when I tried swimming again, I felt tired after a few laps, whch was extremely unusual for me. My short term memory has gone to hell, I can barely remember what happened 2 days ago. It sometimes actually feels weird being sober sometimes and I'm always thinking about toking up again. Whoever said pot wasn't addictive, lied. Mentally, it can be VERY addictive.

Cigarettes are a whole different story. I've tried quitting before, and failed. But I didnt go through with it. This time I will.

I'm actually burning out at the moment from an earlier session. But today I realized that finally I need to get my life on check because this **** is bringing me down.

From now on:

-No pot at all, not even on a rare occasion
-No cigarettes AT ALL. Even if I'm going insane, I'm going to pull through.
-Swim workout 5 times a week. Gym 3 times a week. Gotta get my ass back in shape.

The point of this is to get myself back to being sober again and taking better care of my health.

I will update this thread daily with my struggle for quitting cigarettes and pot.
nothing wrong with a little weed now and then
 

Kidd

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BuryYourDead said:
nothing wrong with a little weed now and then
When your days start revolving around getting high, its just not right
 

BuryYourDead

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Kidd said:
When your days start revolving around getting high, its just not right
meh i only smoke when im with friends and just hanging out you know?? no fun to smoke alone dude :]
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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hey shut up. he's trying to quit. quit saying nothings wrong with it... youre supposed to say **** like "good choice for once"... especially if youre the first to reply. wtf is up with this forum now... people are just too stupid nowadays.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Where does a girl come into this?
 
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