You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
blinkwatt said:You can gain some strength and muscle but nowhere near as fast as you could with weights on dumbbells/cables/barbells but not machines(stay away from machines). Good Luck!
Yes you are correct. I noticed that I gained minimal size and strength when I used machines for 1/2 of my workouts. Ask anyone who is "big" they will let you know that free weights are much better in the long run once you get comfortable with lifting. Machines are good for burnouts though.mrRuckus said:There's nothing wrong with machines.
Increase reps/weights on anything and you will get stronger/grow.
You could just add weight by wearing a backpack filled with bags of sand. It's actually cheaper then a set of free weights or a gym pass.Skilla_Staz said:Pushups can only get you so far. In order to increase the weight on a pushup, you need to gain weight.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That is now weight training. Adding any foreign weight, is (at least in my book) considered weight training, no matter how minimal.Slevin said:You could just add weight by wearing a backpack filled with bags of sand. It's actually cheaper then a set of free weights or a gym pass.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.