EmotionalGeek
Senior Don Juan
I heard push-pull is very effective technique. Unfortunately I only managed to come up with something on my own once. Do you have any effective push-pull routines/lines that I can test out on next date?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Macaframalama
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I prefer to push and pull with banter and my time/attention. If she says something stupid, I will clown the chit out of her just like i would one of my friends. I might pull by telling her that at least she's cuter, than them when she's trying to hang with the big dogs. It can also be on the lighter and sexual side of things. I naturally gravitate towards witty ppl and love to laugh, even if it's at my expense. When, we're hanging out, most of the time it's alot of clowning and joking about the funny side of situations. Sure, there are situations, when life isn't all fun and games, but for the most part, try to laugh and have as much fun with life and the company you keep as possible. Especially, your women. If you guys don't see eye to eye, expressing that you don't, is another genuine form of push. You can pull with rewarding her, when she does something to deserve it. All situations aren't as black and white or "fraudulent" as urbanmyth up there would have you believe.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
This is it... also telling her shes beautiful, a short time later your not sure about her anymore and you tell her shes too young for you or whatever bs. Use it once a while so that it doesnt become obvious.
You are talking about something totally different from what I'm talking about.
If you're confused let me know. I can explain what I mean better.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.