"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Push Pull

judoalex

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I heard this push pull works well.......any ideas on more like these

after having a conversation and an age comes up


I usually dont date younger woman...but ill make you an expeption

more like these will be appreciated
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Uro.Essence

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If so here are a few:

"You're shirt is really nice... i saw someone else earlier to day with the same one." (surprisingly effects them)

If she interrupts you while your talking to the set say "OMG Is she always like this?"

its pretty easy to be honest it's just anything that would be a slight insult to show you're not interested.

then later feather her back up with a small compliment.
 

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Very nice, but one should keep in mind that if the initial push is too strong, it breaks all the mood, rapport and possibly attraction because if the push is very strong, it also triggers an equally strong defense mechanism in the form of projection. In order to preserve her ego, her self-image, the girl will conjure up a very negative image of you. So if the push is too strong, the negative image of you in her mind will also be too great to cancel in favour of a different image.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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push pull is about giving then taking away what you gave.

your friendly then your cold, your happy then your sad. you like her than you hate her. extremes build push pull.

the one i find most powerful and the one ppl most often refer to is your attracted, then your not, your interested then your bored.

effectively you are toying her emotions towards you, but tempting her then removing the temptation.

also you are guideing her, in a carrot and stick way: if she does something you approve of you condition this posative behaviour by rewarding her with IOIs, if she does something you dont apporve of you punish her with IODs

you want to keep her guessing until she gives heavy IOIs then you only want to be doing it as reward and punishment.

the key to to keep them off their feet and never quite sure what your intentions are...the theory being people always want what they cant have.

however you will need to intiate the interaction with less push pull and gradually bring it in, you need her to be invested in the interaction before it works properly, otherwise she will jsut not care...she hasnt given/ revealed enough about herself to care if you like her or not...so you want to wait for a few IOIs, push pull will work to amplify the attraction rather than create it as such...although there are ofcourse exceptions.

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